"People Who Don't Get Angry" vs. "People Who Do"? The Importance of Facing Your Emotions.

I was reminded once again that the power of manga is amazing!!

A new version of one of my favorite books, which includes manga, was released, so my friend Mayumi sent it to me.

I have read this book before, but it seems the power of the added manga made it feel like a completely different book.

The first chapter is about "people who don't get angry" and discusses anger.

In the past, when I read the same book, I would think of myself as the "person who doesn't get angry" and my husband as the "person who gets angry," but this time, thanks to the manga, I finished reading the whole thing while keeping the content within the context of the manga characters. 😆

The timing of when you read a book is also important for how it settles in your heart. Since my husband is no longer here, I realized I was able to finish reading it very objectively despite it being the same content, and I even found myself laughing at that.

My late husband was a man who seemed like "anger" wearing clothes. Of course, that was only inside the house, so perhaps few people outside the family knew that my husband had a short temper.

My husband had high expectations for things, and because he was someone who could do anything himself, his frustration with what others couldn't do would build up, and his anger switch would often be flipped.

Once that switch was flipped, yelling was a normal occurrence, so I pride myself on being an expert at controlling an "angry person," having spent a long time lovingly wrapping, sometimes enduring, and supporting a husband who had such a troublesome side.

There is no one who feels good when anger is directed at them, but I have interpreted being the target of his full-blown anger as him being spoiled by me and trusting me. In the first place, he was much easier to understand than someone like me who doesn't show anger on the surface, so it wasn't all bad.

When I was first married, I was weak when it came to feelings of anger and would cry easily, so looking back, thanks to my husband who got angry easily, I was able to cultivate a strength that wouldn't be easily discouraged by just anything. Thinking about it that way, I almost want to thank him for making me a tough woman.

My father's favorite saying was "you must not get angry," so I grew up in a calm household. My husband grew up in a household where emotions were laid bare and angry shouts would sometimes fly. I realized that my husband and I had different default settings, and I came to think that the expression of anger is greatly influenced by the environment in which one is raised. Although he was a person who got angry, he was rich in the expression of all emotions: joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure.

Interestingly, my father and younger brother, who were from a calm household, had a falling out due to a feud, and my brother didn't even show up to my father's funeral without ever having a big fight. From that experience, I even started to wonder if it's good or bad that they couldn't express their "anger" well.

Human emotions and grudges are truly troublesome things.

The book contains ways to deal with all kinds of emotions other than anger, and no matter how many times I read it, I have new realizations. For me, having controlled an "angry person" for a long time, thinking about how to deal with emotions was a daily occurrence, so it is a book I can empathize with a lot.

Since it is a long-seller that has sold 300,000 copies, I imagine many people have already read it, but the new version was especially easy to read and clear. It gives you the realization that "you can also think and perceive things in this way." People who are tired in their hearts might find hints to feel better.