[Participating in the project] Interactions between the home helper and my father-in-law. A non-dual perspective episode⭐✨

Good morning🌟✨ It's Yahoo.

I discovered this project by Laramii-tan via peach-chan's article the other day.
I thought, this is it!!
I think I can write a few before the deadline,
so here is the first one. I'll post the links to both of their articles here (*^^*)

An episode about my father-in-law that has been a hot topic lately?! A classic one (lol)

There are many times I look back and think, 'Wow, so many things really happened,' so here is that episode.

Even now, I still occasionally get calls from the home helper.

Helper→
'My father-in-law isn't answering his cell phone, and since it could be a problem if something happened, could you please contact him, Yahoo-san?'

Me→
'I'll check with him right away.' (Even if I'm at work, I don't care)

I call my father-in-law.

And for some reason, my father-in-law answers my calls after just one ring.

Then, when I ask, 'Didn't you just get a call from the helper?'
he gets angry, saying, 'Why does that guy (the helper) always tattle to you right away?' (lol)

No, no,that's the helper's job, you know. I say, calmly soothing him.

When I ask for details, it seems he had a plan to pretend he wasn't home to get the helper to leave💦 It seems my husband's younger brother was visiting that day.

The priorities in my father-in-law's mind are clear.

When his sons → grandchildren → me?
are there, he always tries to send the helper away by saying he won't take a bath, so please just go home (lol)

No, no, please take a bath!!?? The helper came here because that's their job...
This kind of exchange. I've done it dozens of times already, so for me, it's a piece of cake. But when a new helper joins, both I and the helper's supervisor would often think, 'Oh, here we go again.'

And at first, there were times I would say, 'Stop it, you're causing trouble for the helper!!'

But the one who is really in trouble isn't the helper. I've realized recently that I was directing my own emotions—not knowing what to do with them—toward my father-in-law.

The anger of having to deal with such calls while at work. The feeling of shame that he was causing trouble for the helper.

Perhaps the reason I've become able to calm this kind of anger is because
I started communicating properly with my father-in-law. Especially after talking about the war and stories from the past, I think I've become a little kinder in how I handle him.

Family should be the most important thing, buthaving experienced discrimination against people with disabilities during the war and in the life that followed, and having many siblings, I often think lately that he might be trying to reclaim the youth he never had where he couldn't rely on anyone.

I wonder if he just didn't get to be spoiled when he was at the age where he really wanted to be spoiled by his family.

So, I've come to feel that because he values his time with family, that might be what leads to him not wanting to take a bath.

Huh. Maybe I'm wrapping this up too neatly?! (lol)

My father-in-law has been showing off his fair share of clumsiness lately too, and things are tough in various ways (lol),
but in the end, I think I've come to feel that it's amazing how, as time has passed, I've become able to find some amusement in various things from a bit of a distance (lol).

To the helper, I truly want to say from the bottom of my heart, thank you for all your hard work every single time🙏

Wishing everyone a wonderful day🌟✨

Every day is a good day.