The Recommendation of "Oh Well" | For Those Who Tend to Worry
The more responsible a person is, the more there is a phrase they cannot say.
"Oh well."
Like a spell that must never be cast, for some reason, they stubbornly cannot bring themselves to say it.
When they try to say it, it gets stuck in the back of their throat.
It's not that they don't say it; they can't.
What if they were to say it?
I feel like something important
would come crashing down,
and things I have carefully protected until now
would shatter into pieces.
This is by no means an exaggeration.
For those who cannot say "oh well,"
this is a fairly serious problem.
That is why, even today, I cannot say it.
For example, for those of you who work,
have you ever experienced a day like this?
--
The time is long past the end of the workday.
In the corner of my mind, I can faintly hear a voice
saying it would be fine to go home now.
But I cannot say, "Oh well. Let's go home today."
I know it would be easier if I went home.
Even so, I finish until a good stopping point.
And so, I go home late at night after finishing everything.
Objectively, I am responsible and a hard worker.
But it drains me, and I get mentally exhausted.
--
"Oh well."
These five characters are that heavy.
It is a phrase that cannot be said lightly.
On the other hand, there are people in this world who can say
"oh well" surprisingly easily.
Even if they make a mistake, they are unfazed.
They don't dwell on the past. They switch gears quickly.
While I am replaying the scene of my reflection over and over, they have already moved on to the next topic or action.
To be honest, I am genuinely envious.
In other words,
I am completely the type of person who cannot say "oh well."
Even though they must have experienced the same event,
the processing in their brains seems completely different.
Of course, it's not that they are sloppy.
It's not that they aren't thinking,
or that they are irresponsible.
I just think they are good at switching gears.
Even if they dig up the past blindly,
I feel they understand that it is a place where nothing will come out anymore.
Therefore, they don't waste time digging there.
From my perspective,
it looks like they do it instinctively.
So, I
started consciously observing people
who can say "oh well."
Where do they draw the line for reflection?
What do they let go of, and what do they protect?
Like misspeaking a little in a meeting, or stumbling over words.
Honestly, I don't get depressed over that level of thing.
But there are slightly more troublesome situations.
For example,
"when a proposal I prepared with all my heart didn't resonate as much as I thought it would," or
"when I thought I spoke after thinking it through, but the atmosphere in the room became awkward."
Or even in my private life,
the moment I realize later that a word I said with good intentions was taken in a way I didn't intend.
Even after such "quietly lingering failures," I think people who can say "oh well" switch gears quickly.
The next day, they are likely working with the same energy. They don't seem to dwell on it strangely, and they probably aren't blaming themselves more than necessary.
Of course, it's not that they aren't thinking about anything.
They just don't use everything as material for reflection.
They don't link mistakes to their own personality.
They are exquisitely good at drawing that line with their emotions.
Watching them, I formed a hypothesis."Oh well" is not a cessation of thought, but a way to organize thoughts,
and a phrase to view oneself from a bird's-eye perspective,
,
I began to think.
What I want to convey here is that this note is
by no means a story about how "I am no good because I cannot say 'oh well'." It is actually the opposite.
There is no need to blame yourself for not being able to say it.
It is an attempt to borrow the way of thinking of people who can say "oh well."
Although I titled it 'practice,' I don't think it is anything that grand.
Reflection where the next move doesn't come to mind is probably digging too deep.
If nothing seems to come out,
it might be a place to use "oh well,"
so I try to take a step back and look at it.
Of course, if this were easy to do, I wouldn't be struggling.
I am currently in the process of practicing.
Even so, I have come to think a little that "oh well"
is not a phrase to throw away carelessly,
but something like a divider line
to stabilize my own performance.
Honestly, I don't know if this conclusion is really okay.
But I think ending it like this is also
a practice of "oh well."
To everyone who cannot say "oh well."
Why don't we try to relax a little tomorrow?
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Thank you for reading.
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