[Unique Book Review] Good news for those of you who are frustrated every day! Is it true that frustration is a talent?

I have a daily routine. That routine is...

Listening to my wife's complaints!!

Since our two children are living away from home, my wife has more free time. Meanwhile, I use my free time to work as a cram school teacher (part-time) to earn money for their living expenses. The two of us spend our days almost entirely passing each other by.

It is also true that our conversations have decreased recently. That is precisely why I dedicate myself to listening to my wife's complaints. With a concentration higher than undiluted Calpis, I pack in all the events and emotions and swallow them in one gulp.

My wife is always angry. She is always frustrated. Now that her frustration toward the children has disappeared, the cause of everything lies in her workplace.

My wife has been working as an office clerk at a small-to-medium-sized company for a long time. According to her, several male employees cause problems almost every day. Moreover, since the president is sometimes involved, that makes it even more troublesome.

My wife's workplace is a small-to-medium-sized company in the countryside where male chauvinism remains deeply rooted. It seems it is taken for granted that women do the cleaning and serve tea. It is an image close to the workplace of Akimi (a small-to-medium-sized company in Setouchi) that appears in "You Shine Like the Stars."

My wife vents that stress by drinking in the evening.

When she bought 6 cans of beer...

She got curry roux as a bonus!

This is no time to be happy.

In exchange for such luck, bad luck visits. It seems that the world is balanced by pluses and minuses more than necessary.

A new employee has arrived at my wife's workplace!

Believe it or not! A fresh 67-year-old former bank employee!!

Moreover, even though he is a new employee, he seems to be in a position superior to my wife. Unfortunately, this new employee was also a 'frustration bug' that makes my wife irritable. We really don't need that kind of bonus.

I was surprised by the content of her complaints.

No, you should do that yourself, right!?

It seems he even asks my wife to do such simple tasks. For example, creating a simple list in Excel, or putting documents into envelopes to send them...

Of course, all the men, including the new employee, receive higher salaries than my wife. It is a fact that this reality accelerates my wife's frustration.

Even though the workplace was already full of frustration, an additional order of 'frustration bugs' was added. It is no longer something as mild as a bonus.

Limited time 'extra volume' campaign now in progress!!

The campaign will likely continue until my wife retires. I am no longer swayed by the 'limited time' promotional slogan.

Is frustration an opportunity??

It was written that frustration is an opportunity to discover your talents. Reading Miho Kamiya's 'Human Relationships Go Well,' large scales like those of a carp fell from my dry eyes.

According to Kamiya-san, 'frustration' is an emotion that appears when you know the ideal state, but the exact opposite situation is occurring right in front of you.

In other words, things that you can do naturally cannot be done by the person in front of you. That gap manifests as frustration.

That gap is your talent, an ability superior to others. Kamiya-san says that when you feel frustrated, you should think, 'Thank you for showing me my talent.'

If there is something that makes you frustrated, why not try approaching it with a sense of gratitude? Not only will you be thinking positively, but new work or opportunities might be born from it.

However, how you deal with frustration differs depending on the emotional distance between you and the other person. 'Human Relationships Go Well' describes how to deal with it by categorizing it according to emotional distance.

That Matrix I used to hate!?

When I hear the word MatrixMatrix, my heart gets restless. I am good at math, but I hated Matrixmatrices (and I also hated geometry). It reminds me of when the whole class boycotted our summer homework.

It makes sense that it was temporarily removed from the high school math curriculum.
No one uses matrices in real life.
There's no way they do...

Thinking that was a big mistake. I wonder if Mr. Kamiya likes matrices. He went out of his way to use a matrix to explain how to understand the distance between your heart and others.It must be a jab at me.

The relationship matrix is something you think about using the axes of 'emotional distance' and 'impact on life.' By considering your relationship with the other person and fitting it in, it is a system that allows you to understand the 'present' and the 'goal' of your relationships.

I see. Even I, who hate matrices, could do this.

That said, I don't have any trouble with relationships at the moment, so I think I'll check it again if something comes up.

As I started reading the book, it had coping methods written for each emotional distance, so I kept reading while thinking, 'I see, I see...'

However, as I read on, the scenery I was looking at started to change. I was walking on the ground, but before I knew it, it was like I had wandered into the Umeda Dungeon.

Before I knew it, I had been taken quite deep. Mr. Kamiya says that if you decipher your own emotions, possibilities will expand from there.

Why do I get frustrated with my children?

He wants you not to just end with being frustrated, but to try and decipher the emotions that lie beneath it.

To you, whose frustration has reached its maximum limit watching your child not study even though they are an examinee! This book is recommended for you.

In recent years, it is said that murders involving relatives account for more than 50% of all cases in Japan. To maintain good relationships with those close to you, please try reading "Human Relationships Work Out".

Before you get stabbed,you should first identify the true nature of that frustration.

When I advised my wife, "Getting frustrated at work just means you have talent,"...

It's not that I have talent.
Those people are just too incompetent!!!

I got snapped at even though it had nothing to do with me.
It seems I just rubbed them the wrong way.
I'll try to be careful not to make them frustrated.

Acknowledgments

This book was kindly provided to me through "Tsunagu Library". I would like to take this opportunity to express my gratitude.

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