Is it strange that I don't have a role model? | The "Internal Reference Type" as seen through shortest-path success and modeling thinking
Is there anyone you think, "I want to be like this person"?
An entrepreneur you respect.
A boss you admire.
A creator you set as a goal.
People who can describe their future image through someone else's figure.
But I didn't have anyone like that.
I think they are amazing.
They are smart. They have good taste. They are good at singing.
But I don't think, "I want to be them."
I could never put that difference into words.
In the past, I felt a bit of an inferiority complex.
Was I missing something because I didn't have a role model?
Was my perspective too narrow because I couldn't find anyone to respect?
I have thought things like that before.
But then I realized something.
In this world, it is said that modeling is the shortest route.
Imitate successful people.
Copy the patterns of those who are doing well.
It is the same with business models.
It is faster to reproduce successful cases than to create from scratch.
It is the same with NLP.
Extract and reproduce the thinking, behavior, and language patterns of excellent people.
As a structure, it is completely correct.
If you want to achieve results in the shortest time, modeling is rational.
I understand that perfectly well.
Even so, I just couldn't bring myself to want to be someone else.
Perhaps the reason was simple.
Before "success," I prioritized
"alignment of senses."
No matter how rational it was,
no matter how high the reproducibility,
I couldn't move unless my inner self quietly nodded in agreement.
So, it wasn't that I didn't know about modeling,
nor that I looked down on it.
It was just that my aptitude was different.
People who have role models
place their future selves on the "outside."
They give shape to their ideals in the form of "I want to be like that."
That becomes a powerful driving force.
But people without role models are different.
They don't depict their future image through the figure of someone else.
Somehow, they can only follow their own senses.
It's not that they can't find someone to imitate,
but that the very idea of imitating doesn't quite feel right.
That is not a sign of immaturity,
but perhaps just the specification of an internal reference type.
If I had encountered a powerful role model,
I probably would have forced myself into that person's mold.
That would surely have been faster.
I might have even achieved results.
But in exchange,
I feel like my own texture would have faded.
Perhaps not meeting one wasn't bad luck, but inevitable.
I wasn't built for the shortest route,
but for the long, self-driven path.
To you, who has no role model.
It is not because you are empty.
Modeling is not bad.
It is just that your growth path is different.
Some people grow by copying the outside.
Some people can only move from the inside.
Neither is superior.
They just have different specifications.
When I see an amazing person, it is no longer a feeling of inferiority, but
a feeling of gently stepping into a space like spring sunlight.
It is warm.
It is bright.
The air is soft and expansive.
I am instantly enveloped in the space that only that person creates.
I am not taken from.
I do not feel impatient.
I do not feel small.
I simply resonate.
I think that is enough.
Not having a role model is not because you cannot become anyone.
It is just that your own form is still slowly growing.
▶The sense of discomfort from being told 'Aren't you overthinking it?'
🪞 This is a place to clarify your judgment rather than seek correctness.
If, after finishing reading,
you feel 'something has shifted' rather than 'I understand.'
That is a sign that the 'assumptions' within you have begun to sway.
What we handle at withchat is the 'assumption structure' that dulls your decision-making.
I do not offer encouragement or know-how.
This is a time for you to stand in a position from which you will not turn back.
If this feeling sounds familiar, I recommend starting your reading here.