Why do some people get angry at the same laughter? — Unconscious processing by those who witness laughter
Up until the last installment, I have written about how people laugh.
Laughter is not a phenomenon that is completed solely within the person who is laughing.
The moment someone laughs,
processing also occurs on the side of the observer who sees it.
Even though the same laughter occurs in the same situation,
some people feel relieved, some are confused, and some get angry.
This is not a difference in sensitivity or personality.
It is a difference in how it is processed.
*To begin with, what kind of phenomenon is "laughter"?
As a precursor to the rise of anger,
here is an article that describes the structure of how people laugh.
▶ The true nature of laughter that cannot be explained by "funny" — The processing structure of human laughter
Laughter is received as a "signal"
Laughter becomes a
signal that informs the setting that something has happened.
The person who sees it
unconsciously processes the following questions.
What just happened?
Is this safe?
Do I understand this situation?
What is the position I should take here?
As a result,
reactions diverge.
People who feel relieved
People who see laughter and
feel "Oh, it was okay,"
"Oh, it got through,"
or "The situation hasn't broken down."
These people
receive laughter as a signal of safety confirmation.
They see laughter as a "buffer"
Their worldview is not shaken
Confident in one's own understanding
Because there is a sense that one's own understanding and the understanding of the situation
are not misaligned,
no special emotions remain.
■ Understood (or, it is fine not to understand) → Stable
People who can laugh together
"I get it"
"I see it"
This is rare.
Seeing even the "cause" of the laughter
Able to process it without it being explained
The unconscious is on the same layer
People who understand the reason for the laughter,
or even if they don't,
can judge that "it is fine not to understand."
Because there is a shared sense, no discomfort remains in the situation.
■ Grasping the structure → Resonance
People who don't know what happened and become anxious
"Huh? What was that just now?"
Don't know the reason why laughter occurred
But know that the situation has shifted
A feeling of being left behind alone
Here,
impatience, anxiety, and discomfort arise.
This is not a problem of comprehension ability.
It is a state where processing cannot keep up.
■ Incomprehensible → Position unknown → Anxiety
People who lose confidence
"Do I not understand anything?"
Feeling a "gap" at the moment of laughter
Doubting one's own comprehension or perception
Comparison begins
Through laughter,
one becomes keenly aware of
differences in understanding or standing.
Laughter = visualization of hierarchy.
This reaction
often happens quietly.
■ Comparison → Lowered self-evaluation
People who get angry
Some people view laughter as a problem.
"Don't make jokes about that"
"That's not something to laugh about"
This is the easiest to understand.
The premise was collapsed by laughter
But if I admit that, I will fall apart
So I strike at the "outside"
This is a reaction that occurs when
the premise is collapsed by laughter.
However, if one admits that collapse,
they will fall apart.
Therefore, they strike at the outside.
This anger,
while appearing to be directed at the laughter itself,
is actually a defense to protect one's premise.
■ Worldview damage → Defense → Attack
People who treat laughter as if it never happened
Ignoring it.
Changing the subject.
Disregarding it.
Processing cannot keep up
But cannot express it as an emotion either
Judging it as dangerous and blocking it
This is the quietest form of rejection.
It is also the most absolute form of rejection.
■ Danger assessment → Disconnection
Laughter is not what divides people
What is important is that laughter does not select people.
Laughter simply
visualizes the processing status.
People who have finished processing
People who are in the middle of processing
People whose processing has stopped
That difference
appears for just an instant.
When people see laughter, they look at their own position
When people see laughter,
they unconsciously
check 'where they are'.
That is why reactions differ.
Relief, anxiety, anger, and silence are
allthe results of internal processing.
The next question that arises
So,
what are people doing
if their processing doesn't end
even after seeing laughter?
What about those who look not at the laughter itself, but at
the point where the laughter originated?
*While some people feel anger, others simply accept "what happened" by observing the situation. I have written here about the unconscious mind of those who are within the laughter while simultaneously observing it.
▶ The reason why some observe their surroundings while laughing: Unconscious processing that occurs while being inside the situation
💡 This note is for those whose senses move before they find an answer.
If, after finishing reading, something remains with you rather than just a sense of "I see"—
that might be a sign that your inner self has begun to move.
🌱 Reclaiming your own axis of judgment from the sensations before they become words 🌱
I conduct one-on-one co-creation sessions where we observe the hesitation, discomfort, and wavering currently happening within you, not as "emotions" but as a "structure."
It is okay if you cannot speak well.
It is okay if things are not organized.
Please bring your current state just as it is.
▶ What is the quiet structural change that happens in this place?
*It is fine to remain in a state of hesitation.