You cannot change by doing things the 'right' way

👉 It is not a matter of willpower that you cannot quit smoking
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I want to quit smoking.
I want to stop using my smartphone.
I want to stop staying up late.
I want to stop eating snacks.

──Even though you think that, you cannot stop.

I think many people have labeled themselves as having "weak willpower" somewhere along the way.

But that is wrong.

👉 The reason you cannot stop is because "that behavior still has meaning"

🔸The "positive intention" behind the behavior

Whether it is smoking, looking at your smartphone, or staying up late.

There is a valid reason for every behavior.

・Wanting to feel at ease for even a moment
・Wanting to protect yourself
・Not wanting to feel lonely
・Wanting to regain the feeling of being alive

──That is a subconscious "gentle defense."

Therefore, no matter how much correct advice you are given from the outside,
unless that intention is seen, the behavior will not stop.

🔸A society that teaches you "how to quit"

Social media is overflowing with ways to quit.

"Tips for quitting smoking," "How to quit based on brain science," "7 steps to change your habits"...

But all of them assume an "external correct answer."

👉 If you do it this way, you can change

If you remain in that structure,
you will continue to live by "someone else's breath."

The reason quitting smoking is difficult is not so much a problem of addiction, but rather,
👉 a problem of the "structure of relying on correct answers"

🔸 Rather than 'quitting', 'returning'

True change is not about 'quitting'.

👉 Returning to your own breathing

Whether it's cigarettes, smartphones, relationships, or work—

as long as you are breathing in sync with the outside world,
you will repeat the same things in different forms.

Quitting is not the goal.
👉 The essence is reclaiming your autonomy

🔸 Why do we repeat things?

Modern society runs on 'efficiency,' 'results,' and 'correct answers.'

No matter how many correct methods you learn,
if you don't develop the 'inner muscle' of feeling for yourself and deciding for yourself,
you will forever be 'lost in how-tos.'

'I want to quit but I can't'

That is not a matter of willpower.

👉 It is because there is an 'intention' that has not yet been fulfilled

If you try to quit without realizing that intention,
the same thing will happen again in a different form.

👉 That is why you need to look at 'why you are choosing it'
rather than 'how to quit.'

withchat is a place to look at 'your unconscious voice'
rather than external correct answers.

🔸 To you

If you can't quit something right now, it's okay.

It just means you are still doing the 'necessary breathing.'

You don't have to force yourself to quit.

The 'you who can't quit' still has a gentle intention that hasn't been fulfilled.
Instead of blaming it, let's look at it.

When the role of that behavior ends within you,
a moment will come when you can naturally let go without trying to quit.

🌀 "I want to stop, but I can't"

If that is how you feel,

it might not be a matter of willpower.

👉Why you "know what to do but can't change"

満たされない人に足りないのは、もっと頑張ることじゃない。

The anxiety of the AI era,
the fatigue of repeating the same things,
and the lingering feeling of "is this really okay?"

Even though you think about it properly,
for some reason, you don't move forward.

All of that comes from the same single misalignment.

Pick just one that interests you 👇
👉For those who feel unfulfilled

🪞 When you still feel stuck

"I understand, but I don't change"

If you feel that way,
why don't we take a look together?

Because there is a reason
for that feeling.

👉 Identify the source of the misalignment in 15 minutes