The more serious a woman is, the more she lacks the 'power to play'
Hello.
I am Lune, here to gently light a flame in your heart.
I write tips for you, who are always doing your best,
to help you relax and live with a lighter heart.
― How adults can play to make their hearts, the world they see, and their lives sparkle ―
Every day, you do what you are supposed to do.
You work diligently.
You continue to learn.
You value your relationships with those around you.
I am sure that you
are a very responsible woman.
From those around you,
"Someone who is reliable"
"Someone who has it all together"
You might be told things like that often.
But, in a fleeting moment,
don't you ever have feelings like this?
"Maybe I haven't felt truly happy lately."
It's not that you have any complaints.
But somehow, every day just passes by uneventfully.
That kind of feeling.
If this rings even a little true for you,
today's article is written for you.
1. The more serious an adult woman is, the more she forgets how to 'play'
When we were children,
・Doing what we like
・Doing fun things
・Looking for things that excite us
We had that time naturally.
But as we become adults,
・Work
・Responsibilities
・Roles
start to increase.
As a result,
'fun things come last'
tends to be the mindset.
Serious women in particular
'enjoy themselves only after finishing what needs to be done'
is the way they think.
But in reality, this way of thinking can sometimes keep the joy of life at a distance.
can sometimes keep the joy of life at a distance.
2. The brain is energized by 'fun things'
In brain science,
when you feel something is fun,
it is known that
dopamine
is secreted in the brain.
Dopamine is
・a sense of happiness
・motivation
・creativity
a substance related to these.
In other words,
the more fun things you do,
the more energy you have for life
is the case.
Conversely,
・working hard
・obligation
・responsibility
When a life of only that continues,
the brain
enters a depletion mode
and stays there.
As a result,
・You get tired easily
・You don't feel excited
・Your motivation drops
you end up in this state.
3. Playing is not a 'waste'
Many people
'playing = waste'
have this image.
However, in psychology,
play is said to be a human instinct
.
Play has
・the effect of reducing stress
・enhancing creativity
・improving human relationships
.
In fact,
many successful people
value their playtime.
Because
play is
time to restore life's energy
that is why.
4. What adult women need is a 'maiden's heart'
There is something I want you to remember here.
That is
a maiden's heart
itself.
When you were a child,
・You felt a thrill at cute things
・You did what you loved with passion
・You were always looking for fun things
That kind of feeling.
When you become an adult,
you end up leaving this feeling
somewhere behind.
But in fact,
a maiden's heart has not disappeared.
It is just
sleeping a little
amidst the busyness.
5. Three things to awaken your maiden's heart
So how can you
regain that feeling?
What is important is
small pleasures
.
1. Experience things that make your heart flutter
For example,
・Cute cafes
・Favorite scents
・Favorite clothes
When you experience these things,
your heart moves a little.
This 'flutter' is
the gateway to a maiden's heart.
2. Make time to do what you love
The busier a woman is,
'I'll do it when I have time'
is what she thinks.
But that time
rarely comes.
That is precisely why
scheduling it in advance
is important.
For example,
・Going to a favorite cafe
・Watching a movie
・Going to an art museum
Time like this
fulfills you.
3. Try prioritizing 'fun'
You may usually prioritize
・efficiency
・correct answers
・usefulness
in your daily life.
But sometimes,
try choosing based on whether it is fun or not
instead.
Even just doing that will change the atmosphere of your life.
6. Women who play have successful lives
There is something mysterious here.
Women who play tend to have the following characteristics:
・brighter expressions
・more energy
・the ability to attract others
This is because
people who are enjoying themselves naturally possess
a certain quality.
attractive energy
is what they have.
And that energy
also has a positive impact on your work and relationships.
In other words,
playing improves the quality of your life
It is.
7. Finally
If right now,
you feel that every day is a little too serious,
please try creating
a small pleasure starting today.
・Go to a cute cafe
・Wear your favorite clothes
・Go to a place you've wanted to visit
Even the smallest thing is fine.
That is
time to cherish yourself
it is.
For you who have worked so hard,
what you need
is not
'to try even harder'
'to enjoy yourself more'
but perhaps it is.
When you remember your girlish heart,
life will start to
sparkle just a little bit.
That radiance
will surely
gently illuminate
your days to come. 🌙