The Difference Between "Positive Thinking" and "Fundamental Change in Thinking"
Today, I would like to talk about something that some people might find difficult to accept!
It is about the “change in thinking” that I have actually experienced.
I will explain it as logically as possible so that it is easy to understand.
First, as a premise, it is said that 95% of human actions and choices are driven by the unconscious.
Even though you think you are thinking, acting, and choosing with your own mind, you are actually doing so with only about 5% “consciousness.”
So, what is the unconscious?
The unconscious is your “habit of thinking” formed by your past experiences.
・Good, bad
・Manners, morals
・Public perception
・Common sense/social norms
To put it nicely, it is “values and beliefs,” but to put it bluntly, it is “prejudices and assumptions.”ですね。
Einstein is said to have remarked, “Common sense is nothing more than a collection of prejudices acquired by age eighteen,” and this is exactly what forms 95% of your unconscious.
It means that you are judging what is good or bad, or how others will perceive you, and making choices and taking actions based on an unconscious that you are not even aware of.
“Positive Thinking” vs. “Fundamental Change in Thinking”
Now, to the main topic.
Regarding the difference between “positive thinking” and “fundamental change in thinking.”
“From ‘pretending’ to ‘changing’” is the keyword.
For example, let's say you were pointed out a mistake at work. And with rather harsh words, too.
In that case, positive thinking follows a thought process like this:
① Being pointed out a mistake with harsh words
② Why do I have to be spoken to like that? (feeling uneasy)
③ No, no (realizing you are being negative)
④ I was at fault too, so I should be grateful that they pointed it out (positive thinking)
⑤ Pretending to be calm (feeling uneasy inside but forcing yourself to think positively)
“Event -> Irritation -> No, no -> Let's change my thinking -> Pretend to be calm”
It's something like that.
On the other hand, when your thinking changes fundamentally,
① You are pointed out a mistake in somewhat strong language
② Oh, I missed that. That helps! Thank you.
In this way, the "fuzziness" no longer intervenes.
You might think that's ridiculous, but changing your unconscious has that much power.
Because your brain judges that "the event = not a threat," you will be able to remain neutral in emotion or unreactive toward things that used to make you feel fuzzy.
Let me share my own example.
Even though I worked in sales, I absolutely hated making phone calls to people.
When I was forcing myself to do it,
① I have to make a call
② I hate this, the other person might be annoyed too
③ But I have to make the call, I have to do it, it's my job
④ It's my job, so I can't say I don't want to do it, let's do my best
⑤ Phew, I'm exhausted (drained)
This was my state.
However, since my thinking changed,
① Oh, I need to make a call
② Beep, "Oh, hello, thank you for your continued support~"
③ Click, well, time to do the next task~
Like this, I can do it calmly without being drained.
Previously, I had the mindset that "I must not inconvenience others," but now my mindset is "I can do whatever I like."
Of course, since calling someone takes up their time, I use chat or email unless it's necessary.
It's a state where the hurdle has been lowered (or removed) for when it really counts.
Yes, so that was the difference between "positive thinking" and "fundamental change in thinking"!
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