【💡etc.1】Marriage is the Cinema of Life

Hello. This is Wakuwaku Mama (wife).
This time, I decided to participate in the following project. Just like the main article, I have compiled the content of our conversation as a couple, so please enjoy it until the end♡

“Marriage” is a video work enjoyed in a safe zone

Wife: "Well then, this time I would like to ask you about the title, "Marriage is the Cinema of Life."

Husband: "Yes."

Wife: "First, briefly about the background of why we wrote 'Cinema'. When we decided to participate in this project and were discussing words to fill in the blank for 'Marriage is the 〇〇 of life', when I asked Odayaka Papa why he married me, you said, "
'Because I want to watch Wakuwaku Mama enjoying herself up close', right?"Husband: "Yes, that's right, and I think that will never change perfectly."

Wife: "I associated that with the word 'cinema'. I thought it was close to

watching fun romantic dramas, comedies, and things like that on a big screen in a place full of presence."Husband: "Yes, yes."

Wife: "However, that's the only image I have. It seems like the word 'cinema' resonated with you, Odayaka Papa, but why did 'cinema' feel right to you?"

Husband: "For one thing, I think what Wakuwaku Mama just said is expressed exactly as it is."

Wife: "That's right, it's exactly as it is."

Husband: "Another thing is that I've been thinking a lot about 'escapism' lately. Time for escapism involves playing games or immersing yourself in something, releasing a large amount of dopamine (a pleasure chemical in the brain). I think that's a state of temporarily forgetting or setting aside real-world problems or what's right in front of you."
Wife: "Yeah."

Husband: "I feel like marriage is quite similar to that."

Wife: "Ah~. So, is marriage actually escapism?"

Husband: "Yes. It's like a state where you're trying to temporarily set aside reality when you're in a lot of pain, or meeting someone you can set it aside with.
It's often said recently that 'the inside of the house should be a safe zone for the family,' and I think that's also close to the state of temporarily setting aside outside dangers."

Wife: "So that's the same as a cinema, too."

Husband: "That's also true. In a cinema, immersing yourself in a movie is escapism, but when you're sitting in a cinema seat, I think you feel safe even if there are 50 people around you. I think that's because
the inside of that cinema is established as a very safe space, a safe zone. It's the peace of mind, or the mental ease you feel when sitting in a cinema, not sensing any danger."

Wife: "I see."

Husband: "But what you're watching or immersing yourself in is consuming your own energy, right?"

Wife: "Indeed. It does consume it."

Husband: "I think immersing yourself in marriage is also a state where your energy is consumed. Like having romantic feelings, having a desire for approval, or a wife suffering from a moral-harassing husband. So,
while watching a movie, you are watching something beautiful and escaping reality, but while you feel safe, you are also consuming a lot of energy, so I think it has a dual nature."

Even if the movies we watch are different, the fact that we chose them remains the same

Wife: "But video works aren't just beautiful things, right? There are horror movies, suspense, things that make your heart race. You're watching those too, right?"

Husband: "That's certainly a more interesting point. Some people watch beautiful works, while marrying a 'demon wife' or a 'scumbag husband' is
closer to the feeling of watching a horror movie, and I feel like they are enjoying that."

Wife: "You're enjoying it one way or another, aren't you?"

Husband: "In the end, the concept of the inside of the house is the same as a cinema, but the video works everyone is watching are different.
But there, we have certainly deviated from the problems that could happen outside the cinema, and by being in that space and immersing ourselves, our hearts have also entered a safe space."

Wife: "In that case, there's a possibility that we aren't necessarily watching the same movie together."

Husband: "That's true. Certainly."

Wife: "(This is an extreme example, but) a woman suffering from emotional abuse might be watching a horror movie the whole time, while the emotionally abusive husband might be watching an action movie, right?"

Husband: "That's true. It happens. That's interesting."

Wife: "One way or another, we choose what we watch, don't we? Even with horror movies, you might think you want to see them from the trailer, but sometimes while watching, you think, 'Ugh, I really regret this.' (laughs)"

Husband: "Exactly, you want to close your eyes, don't you?"}, {Marriage is the same. Married life makes you want to close your eyes too, you know. (laughs)"

Wife: "There are times you want to close them, and there are plot developments too, right?"}, {Even in movies, there are some that are interesting the whole time, and some that drag on in the middle."

Husband: "Ah, I see. In that sense, when we become grandparents, I think we'll come full circle and start watching things like Crayon Shin-chan, or heartwarming daily-life movies starring 60-year-old actors with no action at all. Doesn't that resemble marriage?"

Wife: "Indeed. I see. That's amazing. Yeah, that's interesting."

A little after-talk | To our child

Wife: "We could dare to make a message for our child."

Husband: "That's true."

Wife: "Well... you shouldn't choose the wrong movie to watch. (laughs)"

Husband: "Certainly. (laughs)"

Wife: "I really think going to a movie theater to watch something is just like marriage. Nowadays, you can watch movies at home on Netflix and such, but you go to a proper movie theater, buy a ticket, pay money, and watch a movie that is only being shown right there. If that's the case, I think it's better to choose very carefully."

Husband: "That's true. But," }, {if it's that one precious time, don't you want to watch something very exciting?"

Wife: "Oh, you're right."

Husband: "Most people look for an exciting partner for marriage, too, right?"}, {But if it's a movie you're going to watch every day, a movie you're going to keep watching forever, the way you choose it is different. That might be the difficulty of marriage."

Wife: "I think so. That's why you have to choose a work on the premise that you're watching it in a movie theater. When it comes to that, I guess everyone chooses based on the standard of something they can keep watching forever."

Husband: "When our child says they're getting married, it would be good if we could remember this and tell them."

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