Just by "repeating a little," the other person becomes kinder.

For those who feel uncomfortable with social interactions and
worry that "I end up saying unnecessary things and regretting it."
And for those who are struggling.

Also, for you kind-hearted people who, despite trying your best to listen,
somehow end up making the other person annoyed.
This is for you.

Today, I will share a simple and powerful method of empathy
that I learned from my failures in professional life.

It is a technique called"repeating the other person's words just a little."

By reading this article, you will provide the other person with a sense of security,
you yourself will be freed from the pressure of conversation,
and social interaction should become a little easier.

The arrogance of thinking "I must provide the correct answer"

I may be writing this in a high-and-mighty way now, but
when I was young, I was truly terrible.

Back then, perhaps due to the hot-bloodedness of youth,
I had an "arrogance" that
"I must teach them the correct answer."

While the other person was talking at a job site or a sales meeting, I would
"No, that's not it."
"But isn't it like this?"
and I would repeatedly interrupt them.

The words I uttered thinking I was doing them a favor
would irritate the other person and freeze the atmosphere.

As a result, I have had many bitter experiences where
I lost precious trust and
could never get an order from them again.

I learned firsthand the fear of how
a relationship built up over time
can crumble with just a single word.

"Why did I say it like that?"
I regretted it so much I couldn't sleep at night,
and while realizing my own immaturity,

I finally understood.

Just picking up the other person's words

What I started doing was
"waiting without interrupting until the other person finishes talking."And after they finished speaking,

"repeating the words the other person used just a little."

For example, when the other person says,
"I have some circumstances with XX, so I'm really busy right now."

The old me would have just said "That sounds tough" or
given advice like "If you do this, it will be more efficient."

It's different now.
"You're busy with XX? That sounds like a difficult situation."
I return the specific circumstance of "XX"
that the other person mentioned just as it is.

You don't have to try to understand everything perfectly.
Pick up the "word" the other person wants to emphasize most
and add that word when showing empathy.

With just this, the other person will feel
"Ah, this person has properly accepted what I said,"
and they will feel a sense of security.

You don't need to say anything clever.
Just repeat the other person's words a little, like a "parrot."
That alone will make your relationship with each other kinder.

Start by trying it just once tomorrow.

If you ever feel anxious when talking to colleagues, friends, or family, thinking,
"I don't know what I should say,"
please try remembering this article just once.

"Repeat just a little"

That alone will surely change the atmosphere around you
into something calmer than it was yesterday.

Why not start by trying it just once tomorrow?