Habits for Making Peace with Your Mind and Getting Along Well

You don't need to worry about whether you are happy or not.

You work to earn the money to feed yourself.

Things like finding your purpose in life or personal growth are things you can think about slowly and gradually once you are able to feed yourself properly and have some spare time.

Things get complicated when you think too highly of yourself, like believing you are not the kind of person who should be doing this kind of work. It is easier to let go of unnecessary tension, accept things honestly without straining yourself, and think, 'I'll just do this much, this is just how things are right now.'

It is perfectly fine if you don't like your job. Thinking that a job is better than having no job at all is just right for keeping at it. This way, you won't have excessive expectations, and you can be broad-minded about annoying or unpleasant things, thinking, 'Well, these things happen sometimes.'

If you feel that every day is painful, instead of adding something new, why not find a path where you can be satisfied, thinking that this is good enough? To give up is to clarify your own way of living.

In the end, it's the same wherever you go. There is no environment where you can be 100% satisfied. That is why I think the important thing is to focus on how you can spend your time comfortably in the place where you are now.

You should be kind to others when you want to be, and you should feel free to get in touch when you want to. You should listen when you want to listen, and believe in what you want to believe. But you must not forget that people are people, and each person is living a different life from beginning to end.

It is not a given that things will be provided to you. It is not a given that things will go exactly as you say or as you wish.
If you can live thinking that it is not a given that others will do things for you, you will be able to be grateful for even the smallest things.

How can you avoid having dissatisfaction? By not wishing for too much. Do not expect anything from the start, thinking that 'this person will do this' or 'this workplace will be like that,' as those are just your own thoughts or illusions. If you don't expect or wish for things, other ways and paths may appear.

When listening to others, it is difficult if you get too emotionally involved, so keeping a good distance, thinking that 'everyone has their own struggles,' is best.

You shouldn't be stingy with small acts of kindness; just go ahead and do them.

After an argument, the one who apologizes first wins.

You should choose who you get along with based on whether you like them or not.

When people warn or get angry at others, it is usually for selfish reasons.

Since there is no such thing as a perfect human relationship, tell yourself that, and only share your true feelings or complaints with people you can trust.

Do not rush to find an answer as to whether you should stay with that person or leave them. If you change the emotional distance, you can get along with them in your own way.

It's like 1 or 0; if you like them, you associate with them, and if you dislike them, you part ways. People tend to be extreme about everything and seek extreme opinions that support them.

Rather than aiming for perfection and failing, it is more important to keep going, even if it's in an imperfect form.

When patience is required, set a goal or a deadline. When you think that the end is decided, the things you felt were painful and difficult become a little easier.

Anyway, if you just live day by day, life will work out somehow.

If you have a job where you can eat your fill, sleep soundly, and live a minimum standard of life, you will surely be okay.

Others have their own lives, and you have your own life.

Every person has both good and bad points. Therefore, if you associate with them by looking only at their good points, both you and the other person will be happy and pleased. However, if you get too close to people, you will inevitably have opportunities to encounter their bad points.

If parents give their children enough love, they will naturally become independent and leave. So, until then, it is better to focus as much as possible on the child's happiness. Put your own growth on the back burner and pour all your energy into making your child happy first.

It is enough to be someone who illuminates a corner. Even if you don't succeed or play an active role, it is enough if you can illuminate a corner in the environment you are placed in.

Satisfaction in life is not something decided by someone else. There is no rule that you must live a life similar to someone else's. Please make up your mind that this is your life. In the end, people can only live as themselves.

Before thinking that this is not your job, try accepting it clearly first. Otherwise, you cannot move forward.

Painful experiences, in retrospect, can be felt as the most important experiences. Therefore, not a single one is wasted.

For night work, sleep well. You only need to take action on things you know for sure will happen; you don't need to know anything else.

To recover from sad or shocking things, you need the medicine of time, not advice.

It is inevitable that you will want to compare yourself to others. But know that there is no one, no matter how energetic they seem, who does not have worries.

The time when you have to do your best will come eventually. So, when that is not the case, don't try harder than necessary.

Make up your mind that this is your life. The resolve not to blame others will make a person even greater.

If you can eat and live a decent life, that is excellent. If the person in front of you is happy because of your work, that is a bonus.

No matter how far you go, people are alone.

Affection may look like a good thing at first glance, but if you look at it from a different perspective, it is an attachment to others and a proof of one's own selfishness. Gratefully accept those who come, and do not chase those who leave.

When your body or mind is tired, you must not do anything that puts more burden on them.

Most problems will surely work out somehow.

Even if things don't go well a little bit, don't worry, don't worry.

It is enough if you can obtain the minimum necessary things for yourself and your family to live.