What is happening to people who cannot follow rules

What is happening to people who cannot follow rules

— Is manners really a matter of ability?

Following manners.

Being punctual.
Refining one's language.
Being mindful of one's attitude.

Once you enter society,

things that were vague until then
start to be required in a clear form.

And, depending on whether or not you can do that,

the number of situations where you are evaluated differently increases.

People who are often late.
People whose language is sloppy.
People who are seen as having a bad attitude.

At such times,

“Isn't their awareness lacking?”
“What kind of professional are they?”

Such words sometimes come up.

Let's pause here for a moment.

Is that really,

just that person's problem?

■ Let's try to remember a little

For example,

even for someone who is conscious of being punctual,

due to train delays or shifts in previous schedules,
there are times when they simply cannot make it on time.

Even though they should have left with time to spare,
one delay leads to another,
and before they know it, they are off schedule.

For example,

Even for someone who is usually careful with their words,

in a moment of relaxation, they might suddenly slip into a way of speaking like they are talking to a friend, or their local dialect might accidentally come out.

At that moment,

they realize afterward, "Oh, that might have been inappropriate."

For example,

on a day when you are not feeling well.

When your stomach is upset, or you are feeling groggy from lack of sleep,

there are times when you don't have the capacity to act as you usually do.

Even so,

time continues as something that must be respected, words are expected to be polished, and maintaining a proper demeanor is taken as a given.

Looking at it this way,

among those we view as "people who cannot follow the rules,"

there are cases where phenomena that happen to everyone are simply manifesting a bit more strongly.

■ Asking an AI

■ Asking an AI: "Is not being able to follow manners a matter of ability?"

■ AI's response

The reasons for not being able to follow manners are often not due to a single ability, but rather a combination of multiple conditions.

For example,

when you are not feeling well, your attention and judgment decline, making it difficult to act as you normally would.

Also,

In situations where there is no room for prediction or preparation,
it becomes difficult to act on time.

Regarding language as well,

when fatigue or tension is high,
the precision of expression can be lower than usual.

The same applies to attitude,

due to the influence of physical condition or emotions,
it can appear differently.

In other words,

when manners are not followed,

it is likely not a problem of ability,
but rather the significant influence of the conditions or state at that time.

■ Let's organize this a little

Time was a matter of prediction.
Language was a matter of interpretation and burden.
Attitude was a matter of state and environment.

Thinking about it that way,

the state of "not following rules"

can also be seen not as a simple lack of ability,
but as an overlap of various discrepancies.

■ Let's ask the AI again

■ Ask the AI
"Even so, why am I seen as a 'person who doesn't follow rules'?"

■ AI's response

People tend to judge the meaning of an action
not from the action itself, but from how it appears.

Also,

evaluations are often determined
by whether or not the action aligns with the premises shared in that situation.

In other words,

Manners are established not only by actions, but also by the assumptions of the person receiving them.

■ The assumptions of the receiver

Such manners often appear in a clear form suddenly when entering society.

And,
they are treated as if that is natural.

Then,

it is treated as if that were natural.

Reactions that do not fit those assumptions,

are sometimes processed not as differences,
but as unpleasantness.

How things are perceived becomes the evaluation itself.

■ A slight sense of discomfort remains

When it comes to this point,

the perception of a "person who cannot follow rules"
also begins to waver slightly.

However, there is still one thing left.

If,

it is a matter of conditions and assumptions,

then why,

is "following rules" demanded so strongly?

■ Question

When you feel that "manners are not being followed",

Is it,

A problem of behavior?
A problem of conditions?
Or perhaps, is it a problem of perception?

And,

Where, then, do the things that must still be protected lie?

(To be continued in the next installment)