"Why am I the only one hitting this wall?"—Reality might be a guide to the emotions you wanted to touch

Whether in work or your private life,
why am I the only one hitting a wall like this?
Why is it so painful, even though I'm doing the same things as everyone else?

In this article, I'd like to change our perspective a little to consider the true nature of that "frustrating reality."
Perhaps the difficulty right in front of you now
is actually
a guideto the emotions you truly wanted to touch.

Introduction

This is not a story about asserting what is right.
However, it is a "perspective" that resonates with me right now.
If any part of it fits, please feel free to take it with you.

■ Why is it painful even when doing the same thing?

In work and daily life, there are moments when you suddenly think:

Difficulties appear before you even though you didn't ask for them.
But if you stop and think for a moment,
that wall might not just be a coincidence or bad luck.

This is the way of thinking I recently realized.

Your current reality might be a guide to the emotions you truly wanted to touch.

■ What are the "emotions you wanted to touch"?

To put it deeply, it means this:

• Those who truly want to feel peace encounter situations that shake them.

• Those who want to believe in themselves are placed in situations where they cannot choose or are lost.

• Those who want to learn how to rely on others encounter experiences where they take on too much and feel their limits.

For example, try imagining scenes like these:

• You are put in charge of subordinates or a team, but they don't move as you expect.
  → Perhaps you just wanted to know the "feeling of trusting and delegating."

• Your opinions aren't accepted, and you are isolated in a meeting.
  → Perhaps you needed to experience the "feeling of believing in yourself."

• Chasing deadlines, working late into the night.
  → Perhaps it was actually time to "feel your limits and experience the sensation of self-care."

Reality is not a punishment or a trial.
It is a guide (you might even call it a foreshadowing or a setup) to help you notice emotions you haven't touched yet.

■ How to face reality

When you face difficulties, you tend to blame yourself, don't you?

But let's try changing your perspective a little.

• What emotions is this situation happening to help me experience?

• What are the emotions I haven't known until now?

• What insights or growth can I gain by overcoming this wall?

Just by thinking this way, reality stops being an "enemy" and starts to look like a
guide leading you to the next stage.

■ Hints for concrete action

Changing your perspective helps, but you can also try taking small steps.

1. Keep an awareness journal
   Write down the difficulties that happened that day and the emotions you felt. Looking back at what feelings were hidden can provide hints.
   

2. Try a small experiment
   Try sharing just one comment in a meeting you find difficult. It is more important to be conscious of the
   emotions you touched than whether you succeeded or failed.

3. Take time to regulate your breathing
   When caught up in impatience or anxiety, calm your mind with deep breaths. You can create space to touch the "entrance" of your emotions.
   

■ Ease of breathing over correctness

This way of thinking isn't absolutely correct. However, for me personally, when facing work walls or difficulties, I've become able to move forward calmly without blaming myself.

More important than correctness is whether it is a worldview that makes it easier to breathe. Whether it feels right, rather than just an explanation. That makes it easier to move forward.

■ Finally (a gift for you)

The difficulty right in front of you now might be a sign pointing to emotions you need to touch. It is not there to make you weak, but as a

guide leading you to the next stage.

If the perspective in this article resonates somewhere in your heart,
please accept it gently.

Not about being right, but about a perspective that feels right.
That alone should make life a little easier to handle.

For those who find this perspective fitting, I also recommend the article,
"If the feelings you've avoided remain unread, reality will repeat itself."
I think it will make the mechanics easier to understand.