"In the end, which one is right?" — How to choose the answer that fits you now

"Just take action."
"No, rest first."
"Don't overthink it."
"Let's get organized first."

Every time I look something up, the exact opposite is written.

Since none of them seem wrong, it's even more confusing.

In the end, what should I believe?
I used to think that, but recently, my perspective has changed just a little.

What I needed
wasn't to find the "correct answer,"
but perhaps to choose the "answer that fits me right now."

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Rules have a "right place" rather than being right or wrong

There are many rules and pieces of know-how in the world.

Take action first.
Rest properly.
Prepare before releasing.
It's okay to release even if it's not perfect.

Each one has a point.
That's exactly why it's tricky.

I don't think the problem is that any of them are lies.
I think it's because each one works for "someone, somewhere."

But it differs from person to person.
Even for the same person, it changes depending on the timing.

On a day when you're tired, what you might need is to "rest,"
and on a day when you're stuck waiting for perfection, what you might need is to "try releasing it."

In other words, rather than rules having a correct answer, they have a right place.

And yet, I would always
"Which is the most correct answer?"
find myself searching for that.

But in reality,
"Which one fits me right now?"
might have been the better thing to look at.

What you should look at first is your "own state" rather than the rules

So, how do you choose?

I think what you should look at first
is not the rule itself, but your own state.

Am I tired right now?
Am I feeling impatient?
Am I stuck because of anxiety?
Is it that I lack preparation?
Or have I entered a mode where I cannot move until everything is in order?

If you choose a rule without looking at these things, you are likely to miss the mark.

For example,
if someone who is stuck because they are over-preparing adopts the rule of “prepare more,” they will likely just get more stuck.
Conversely, if someone who is truly under-prepared only adopts the rule of “go even if you aren't ready,” they might just end up defenseless.

That is why what matters is,
not which rule is more impressive,
but whether that rule works in a direction that untangles your current blockage.

I want to look at that.

Try adopting it tentatively and observe the reactions of your mind and body.

Recently, I have been thinking that this is also important.

Try adopting that rule tentatively for a while.

If I were to adopt “just move” right now,
what would happen?
What if I adopted “rest first”?
What if I adopted “it’s okay to put it out even if it’s not ready”?

At that time,
even if your mind is convinced, your body might tense up.
Conversely, even if there is a little fear, there might be a feeling that something is moving forward.

Of course, you cannot decide everything based on physical sensations alone.
Sometimes what feels easy is just an easy way to escape.

However,
even if it seems correct in your head, your body might be resisting it the whole time.
Conversely, even if there is anxiety, you might feel like you can move forward a little.

I feel that the difference between these,
is a hint for identifying the rule that fits you right now.

Being able to adjust is stronger than getting it right on the first try.

Perhaps it is difficult to guess the perfect answer from the start.

But,
I don't think that means it's a failure.

First, observe your own state.
Tentatively adopt a rule that seems to fit.
Observe the reactions of your mind and body.
If it's wrong, change it.

Just by being able to follow this flow,
the pain of “I have to get the right answer” will decrease a little.

What helps people,
is not always the same answer.

What is important is,
not searching for a universal rule that works for everyone,
but being able to choose the premises and rules that move you forward a little right now.

I feel that being able to choose in that way is,
perhaps, much more realistic and stronger.

If you don't mind, just a word.
Was there a phrase that suited you best recently? (Of course, it's fine just to read it.)

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