Aiming to be a wonderful grandmother! ✨️ - The first thing I don't do for that

Good evening 🌛 This is umi.

This is sudden, but I amaiming to be a "wonderful grandmother"✨️ For that, there are things I "don't do, or try not to do."

In today's article, along with what I was talking about with my daughter, I'm going to write about thefirst "thing I don't do."

Things I don't do to become a "wonderful grandmother! ✨️"

💡 Number 1: Don't compare yourself to others.

That's quite difficult, isn't it?
But as I've gotten older, I've stopped comparing myself to others. Please bear with me while I explain what I mean by that 🎵

✅️ "My daughter's words" 'I don't understand the point of complaining without taking action'

These are words my daughter said when she was in junior high school.

Like other middle and high school students in the world, my daughter watches TikTok every day. Apparently, there were jealous comments on a video about someone who had plastic surgery.
"I'm jealous that you could get plastic surgery and become cute."
"It's unfair that you're a winner because of plastic surgery."
I think that was the content. She said the following in response to that, and continued like this.

Aside from her foul language 💦
I almost completely agree with the content of what she said.
It's not about people who don't make an effort, but people who complain without making an effort.
I think it'sa wasteto spend time on things like that.

✅️ Jealousy only makes you ugly

While raising my children, I don't think I've ever had a conversation about being jealous or thinking something is unfair.
We might have conversations like, "Oh, they live in a place like that, how nice~ 🎵" while watching TV.

Because there is no point in being jealousanyway.
If you want to live in a mansion, you should earn the money.
If you want to live abroad, you should just go live there.

I believe that everything is the result of what you choose.
Life is made up of choices, isn't it? ✨️

For example.
Rather than increasing my income by working multiple jobs, I chose to spend time with my children and create time for myself.
Even though I decided that myself, what's the point of being jealous of people who have money? I think it would be fine to be jealous if money would just pop up because of it, but that doesn't happen. It just makes your own heart ugly.
I don't want to do that. I don't want to become any uglier than I already am 😜

If I have time for that, I want to use my time for things I like.
I want to make an effort to like myself.
Because I think life is more fun when you like yourself.

✅️ You are you❗️ Before comparing, let's polish ourselves ✨️

Of course, when I was a student, I also thought, "I'm jealous that you were born cute," about my cute friends.
But unfortunately, unless you get plastic surgery, your face won't change ⏬️
So, I started studying makeup and fashion in magazines to become stylish. When you do that, people start to tell you that you're cute too.

That experience helped me gain a little confidence, and eventually, I came to love my own individuality. Once that happened, dressing up for myself became fun. 🎵

And there is one more thing that influenced me: my ex-husband.
He was someone who loved himself and was a 'I am who I am' kind of person (in a good way). He even said that if he were a woman, he would want to marry himself. 😊
For the 21 years from when we started dating at 19 until we divorced at 40, I spent my days next to someone who loved himself. As the years went by, I also started to be able to think, 'I am who I am.'

And it didn't just influence me; it influenced my children as well.
Both my eldest son and eldest daughter grew up to be people who love themselves (in a good way, of course 😁).

By the way, I have never said the phrase 'others are others, we are us' to my children. I think that's because my children never compared our home to others and complained about anything.
Well, maybe they thought there was no point in comparing things when we didn't have money. 💦

From now on, rather than becoming ugly by comparing myself to others, I will spend my feelings and time on self-improvement, and aim to be a wonderful grandmother. ✨

Thank you for reading this far today as well. 😊
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