[For you who have taken a break from parenting] Coping & hints for things you want to do = found in the past✨️

Hello🌤️ This is umi.

You often see lists of 100 things to do or coping lists on note, don't you?😊
Have you ever made one?

It's great to have a list of ways and things that help you relax, isn't it?✨️
But even if you think, 'I'll make a list!', some people might find it hard to come up with ideas, right?

Especially for you, who have been busy with parenting, you might be at a loss if someone suddenly asks, 'What do you want to do?'

I hope today's article will be of some help to you✨️

📒My coping list

I know I wrote this table of contents, but actually, I haven't made a coping list😂

You might want to retort, 'Hey, you haven't made one?', but please let me make an excuse explain💦

Well, I mean I haven't created one as a coping list.
So how do I manage it? It's in my ”Things I want to do list🗒️”
Since this is packed with things that help me relax, I didn't bother making a separate list (it's double the work, lol).

Details about the 'things I want to do' list are below⏬️

Now, I'll pick out a few things from my 'things I want to do' list that serve as coping mechanisms✨️

💕Go to a cafe alone once a month
💕Relax in the park
💕Go to a variety store
💕Go to a large stationery store (LOFT or Hands are also fine)
💕Spend a whole day at the library
💕Buy sweets or bread I want to eat

There are more, but I'll leave it at this for now😁

💡Things I want to do list = Coping list?

Don't you think these two are similar?
Come to think of it, it's obvious✨️ Because they are things I want to do, they are bound to relieve stress😆

But I don't think they are equal. So how do I distinguish them?

🗒️Things I want to do list
→Includes things that cost money or time, and things I want to do with someone else

🗒️Coping list
→Things I can do alone, and things I can do immediately

For example, if you set it as 'spending time with someone', it might become impossible depending on the other person's situation💦 If that ends up causing even more stress, it's counterproductive😱

💡Hint = Found in things/hobbies you were into in the past

Once I actually started making the list, things I wanted to do came to mind one after another.

Things like wanting to go on a trip driven by my child! Or seeing the night view of Tokyo from a helicopter! The content varies😊 Of course, going to my favorite TINTIN Shop is also included👍️

I am the embodiment of worldly desires. I filled up 100 items in no time, and currently, there are 120 written down! (Too many lol)

While writing, I noticed something.

The coping list I wrote first.
All of these were things I loved doing since I was in junior high school💕 They were also things I had become unable to do while busy with parenting.

But the fact that I wrote them on the list means they are still things I love👍️

💡For you, who have taken a step back from parenting

When raising children, especially during the baby to toddler stage, you can't really get any time to yourself, right? I've been parenting for 20 years, so I understand that painfully well.
How many times did I think, 'I just want to use the bathroom alone in peace,' when they would follow me and cry loudly in front of the door?😂

Now, my children have grown up and I have more time to myself. Even though I wished for this so much back then, I also feel a sense of loneliness. We always want what we don't have; we are such selfish creatures💦

Creating a 'things I want to do' list is what I encountered at such a time.
It reminded me of the things I loved, even after all this time.

So, if you feel like your list isn't progressing, please try to remember the things you were obsessed with in the past✨️
The things you loved in the past are waiting for the day you remember them😊

And this should also lead to finding hobbies to enjoy on your own!
To avoid 'parenting loss' = empty nest syndrome, let's find ways to enjoy our own time starting now and overcome this together👍️

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