Children do a lifetime's worth of filial piety by the age of 3 - I highly recommend it! How to build a 'filial piety savings account'💕

Good evening everyone🌛 This is umi.

Regarding the 'filial piety savings account' mentioned in the title,
it's not about money, you know😜

I'm really glad I did it.
And it was useful even after I got divorced.

You can only create it while you're in the thick of raising children, so please make sure to save up while you can.

'Humans (children) do a lifetime's worth of filial piety by the age of 3'

You often hear this saying, don't you?
There are various theories about it, but it seems to be a quote from the late Rokusuke Ei, who was an essayist, lyricist, and broadcast writer.
'That is the nature of a baby's cuteness. You shouldn't expect anything more than that from a child.' he continued.

He left behind many other famous quotes, so here are a few examples.

My mother was a huge fan of Rokusuke Ei and listened to the radio every day, so mornings in the kitchen meant Rokusuke Ei😆

The introduction has become quite long💦

💡What is a filial piety savings account?

Saving the images of your children✨️
It is based on the term'happiness savings' that appeared in a parenting blog I used to write in the past. It is a record of the children's casual daily life through photos, videos, blogs, and diaries.

'If you ever struggle with parenting in the future, look at the blog, photos, or videos to remember these times and overcome it! Let's save up happiness for that purpose too🎵' Just as it was written, it has become a source of strength for me and a source of comfort.

Parenting isn't just about happy things, is it?
There are times when you get frustrated and times when you worry.
The younger the child, the more demanding they are.
I used to think, 'I just want to go to the bathroom alone in peace.' When my child's separation anxiety was bad, they would cry their eyes out in front of the bathroom door😭
So you might think, 'They haven't done any filial piety by age 3!' This savings account is what makes you realize that they are indeed showing you filial piety.

Humans are creatures that forget. Even if it's about your own beloved child, you can't remember everything. This leads back to the beginning: don't you think it's a waste to forget the times they were showing you filial piety? Then you should just have something remember it for you💡

And,'Parental love is unconditional love'more than that,
'a child's love is the true unconditional love'is what I believe.
I grew up in a normal family and believe I was loved by my parents, but I still don't think I've ever been loved more than my children love me. That's why I want to save that love and enjoy it in my old age (though I'm already looking at it😁)

💡Using photos, videos🎥, and diaries together is recommended✨️

Nowadays, since we have smartphones, I think many people take photos and videos.
(When I was in the middle of raising children, flip phones were the mainstream; you can really feel the passage of time, can't you?😆)
They said something funny! They sang with funny wrong lyrics!
But isn't it a common parenting experience that you only fail to record it at those exact moments? (I've experienced it myself)

That's why it's important to leave it in writing.
A blog is fine, or starting here on this note platform is also good👍️
Smartphone note apps, handwritten planners, handwritten notebooks—anything is fine✨️
The content can be about daily life, of course, but also about childbirth, letters or feelings toward your children, stress—write down anything.
If you also write about the dad who helps with parenting, you'll feel gratitude when you read it back😆 (Even if it might not be convincing coming from me, who is divorced! But I am still grateful for that part even now😜)

🎥Videos you want to capture

Please take photos of your child's daily life, as well as the moments that heal you 🎵 Close-ups of their features are also recommended ✨️
By the way, here are the things I wish I had taken more photos of 👇️

1. Sleeping face 💤

Isn't a child's sleeping face like an angel's? (Parental bias in full effect)
Even while raising them, I loved their sleeping faces so much that I used to write on my blog about how they were angels when they were asleep 💕 By the way, I still love the sleeping faces of my son, who turns twenty this year, and my daughter, who is currently enjoying her high school life 💕

2. Crying face 😭

This might be quite difficult to capture. After all, you're pointing a camera at your own sleeping child. Taking photos when they are injured or throwing a tantrum outside is
of course out of the question. But it's a different story if they are just a little fussy at home. I think it's acceptable to take photos while talking to them ✨️
It's hard to preserve a crying face. But the way they act when they're being clingy is cute, isn't it? A video of my son at age three, fussing and saying, 'I'm here with Mommy, just that,' is in my top three favorites chosen from a vast number of videos (lol).

3. Mommy in the picture too ✨️

I used to take photos and videos on weekday afternoons. Naturally, since I was the one behind the camera, I am not in most of the videos 💦
Looking at photos where I am with my ex-husband, my in-laws, my parents, and my sister, I realize something. The look in our eyes when we watch our children is so gentle and full of love 💕
When they grow up and see those photos, the love from that time will be conveyed to them.
That's why I really want you to capture that look in your eyes, too, as the mom who is closest to them. I regret quite a bit that I didn't take more of those. Please use a smartphone stand or something similar to take photos of yourself playing with them.

💡 You can withdraw these memories whenever you want

When you are struggling with parenting, when your child enters their rebellious phase, when you are hit with
stress, or when you feel disconnected from society due to parenting... they will always heal you 💕

The effect is just amazing 😆
As you watch them, you won't be able to stop your cheeks from relaxing (not sagging, mind you? 😛), and you'll feel so happy.
'I can't believe I lived with such small children every day!
What a happy time that was 🎵' I sometimes even envy myself.

The moment my child was born and I shed tears.
The time they wouldn't leave my side because they only wanted Mommy.
When they first walked, when their first word was 'Mommy'...
Days filled with happiness remain there.
When you see that, you can realize that even the rebellious phase is just growth!
(Though, having said that, we still end up arguing 💦)

And this 'filial piety savings account' is also a history of your own hard work.
It will make you want to praise yourself for doing your best in raising your children ✨️

💡 A chance to learn about the love from Dad after divorce

Naturally, my ex-husband's image also remains in the videos and photos.
My daughter loved watching them. She must have felt the love there.

Conversely, my son didn't want to watch them until he was about a middle schooler.
It broke my heart when he confessed that it made him sad to remember the happy times when Dad was still around. My daughter was so young (in her last year of kindergarten) when we divorced that the memories were vague, so she didn't seem to have those feelings.

It's also recommended to make one for pets, not just children 🎵
Let's all create a 'filial piety savings account' for the future 💕

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