Parenting | The difficulty of finding "3 minutes" in a busy daily life
Do you have any
"breathing room"
in your daily life??
What I always write about
cherishing time with your children, or
pausing for a moment, or
wanting to feel their growth,
I am very happy that there are people
who can empathize with this✨
But surely,
don't you ever think this?
"I wish I could, but I don't have that kind of time!"
Right?
In the midst of busy days,
pausing
or taking a breath,
honestly, there's no time for that, is there?
Waking up in the morning,
preparing breakfast,
sending them off to kindergarten or elementary school,
going to work,
picking them up and coming home,
preparing dinner,
bath time, getting ready for bed, putting them to sleep,
and besides that,
laundry, tidying up, cleaning, shopping...
When you are chased by things to do,
finishing what you are doing now,
thinking about what you have to do next,
your head is full of this,
and thinking "they've grown"
or "they can do this now,"
honestly, there is no time
to savor such things.
Especially if you are a single parent.
Don't you ever regret things later,
like "I couldn't do it"
or "I yelled again"?
I myself,
even though I write these things,
think about this almost every day.
As I wrote before,
what I write
is not because I am able to do it,
but more often than not,
I am writing about things I realized while failing,
or things I am telling myself.
So,
you don't have to do it all.
Just do what you can,
when you can.
When you have a moment,
remember it a little.
Add just a little bit more.
That is enough.
After putting them to bed, looking at their sleeping faces,
you reflect, "Ah, I got angry again today."
Instead of ending it there,
try adding just a little bit more,
like "I worked hard too"
or "Their legs have grown so long."
While hanging the laundry,
instead of just thinking, "I need to buy more because these are about to be too small,"
try thinking,
"They've grown so much."
When you go to pick them up,
instead of thinking, "I'm late, this is no good,"
look at them running toward you
and try thinking, "This is a time that only lasts for now."
When you are cleaning up the dishes,
even if you are called "Daddy!" over and over
and feel like saying "What is it?"
you can't help but smile a little
at the sight of them running over with their Pokemon encyclopedia.
The children are
laughing their heads off
at something silly.
Just for a moment is fine.
Just for a split second,
that moment when you think, "Ah."
Just by feeling
a little bit of warmth,
your heart
will feel just a little lighter.
Just a fleeting moment
in the midst of being busy.
Finding 3 minutes
might be difficult.
But
you might have 1 second.
The day you notice
that 1 second.
I think that alone means you
have moved forward just a little bit today.
You don't have to be perfect.
You don't have to do everything.
That moment you noticed
will surely
change your time with your children
little by little.
Thank you for reading this far✨
To those who thought,
"I like this way of thinking."
I write about perspectives and ways of thinking
to help you stay true to yourself while raising children.
Please continue reading more😊✨
