Why massaging your shoulders doesn't fix them. The "unexpected places" I discovered after 10 years of suffering

Wednesday night

When the treatment is over and the room becomes quiet,
I sometimes suddenly remember my former self.

My shoulders were in pain,
I would massage them, press them, and tap them,
yet by the next day, they would be stiff as a board again.

"Why won't this get better..."
"Am I the only one whose shoulders hurt this much...?"

That is the version of myself I remember.

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The reason massaging my shoulders didn't fix them was that the problem wasn't my shoulders

For a long time, I believed that
"shoulder pain equals a shoulder problem."
But that wasn't actually true.

The reason massaging my shoulders didn't fix them was that

the cause wasn't in my shoulders.
For example—

• Shallow breathing preventing the ribs from moving

• Stiff underarms preventing the shoulder blades from moving
• A back that is too tight, pulling on the shoulders
• An arched lower back causing strain to concentrate in the shoulders
• Eye strain causing tension in the neck
When these "places other than the shoulders" are stiff,


the shoulders are constantly being pulled.
That is why,

even if you massage your shoulders, they just get stiff again.
Back then, I just didn't know how that mechanism worked.

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The "one piece of advice" that changed my shoulder pain life

One day, a practitioner told me this:

"Shoulder pain won't go away just by massaging the shoulders.
The cause lies somewhere else."

In that moment,
something clicked for me.

Looking back,
getting a massage only provided relief for that moment.
By the next day, it was back to normal.

"The cause is somewhere other than the shoulders"
—it was only after being told that
that I felt I could finally look at my body properly.

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The "unexpected causes" of shoulder pain were in places like these

These are all
the "foundation that moves the shoulders," not the shoulders themselves.

When the foundation is stiff,
it is only natural that massaging just the shoulders won't fix them.

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Gentle care you can start today

Here,
I will introduce just one piece of "gentle care"
that I value in my practice.

🌱 Underarm loosening (the gateway to lighter shoulders)

1. Slowly raise one arm
2. Gently grab your underarm with the opposite hand
3. Gently shake it while taking deep breaths
4. Continue for about 30 seconds


When the underarm loosens,
the shoulder blades begin to glide and move.

Even without touching the shoulders directly,
this is why many people feel their shoulders suddenly become lighter.

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Shoulder pain is a "message from your body"

When our shoulders hurt,
we tend to blame only our shoulders.

But in reality,
the shoulders are just "working too hard."

When breathing is shallow,
when your posture is strained,
when your heart is tired.

The shoulders are always
the first place to send out that signal.

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Summary for today

• Massaging your shoulders doesn't fix them because the cause isn't the shoulders
• Breathing, underarms, chest, back, and eye strain affect the shoulders
• The shoulders are a place that tells you about your "body's condition"
• Even gentle care can make a significant difference for your shoulders


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Finally

When I was suffering from shoulder pain,
I thought many times, "Maybe it will never get better."

But,
your body can change just by shifting your perspective.

This is something I have realized
again and again through my practice.

If you feel like thinking a little about your shoulders on a Wednesday night—

I've quietly left an 'introductory note' here that gently unravels the causes of stiff shoulders.

It covers more than just shoulders, touching on breathing, posture, and even your feelings.
It's content designed to help you quietly unwind.

▶︎ The first note to read for those with stiff or painful shouldersnote