Thinking about 'not quitting' and 'how to quit' in an era where quitting is easy

In the current job market, it is fair to say that being 'young' is an asset.
Recruitment agencies, job sites, casual interviews, social media recruiting...
The means for changing jobs are increasing more and more.

And now, the act of 'quitting' itself is becoming easier and easier.
'I was able to quit without stress by asking a resignation agency.'
Hearing stories like that has become common.

Therefore, I would like to think about this theme from my own perspective, having changed jobs five times and quit many companies.
Is there really no option to 'not quit'?
How does 'how you quit' affect your career?

I would like to think about this theme a little seriously, while also incorporating career theory.

First, a major premise.

If you are continuing to have a mentally difficult time at your current workplace,
please, do not push yourself too hard.

Just as you would go to a dentist if you had a toothache, you should consult a professional if your heart is hurting. Health comes before your career.
I want you to choose to 'ask for help' without hesitation here.

To those who say, 'I want to quit because there is no fulfillment'

In self-determination theory (proposed by Edward Deci and Richard Ryan), it is said that there are two types of human motivation.
Extrinsic motivation (money, evaluation, expectations from others, etc.)
Intrinsic motivation (because you want to do it yourself, because it is fun)

Many people start working for 'extrinsic' reasons at first.
However, by 'trying it seriously' from there, the stage can rise, and fulfillment or fun can be born.

I myself have experienced various jobs, including part-time jobs when I was a student.
At first, it was just simple tasks. But as I devised ways to 'do it faster' or 'make it easier,' the work gradually became fun.

Instead of deciding from the beginning that it is 'boring,' I want you to try it seriously just once. I think you will be able to see your own sense of purpose beyond that.

To those who say, 'I want to quit because I am not growing'

First, I recommend that you define what 'growth' is for yourself.
Skills? Promotion? Income? Or what you want to do?
If your goal is clear and you absolutely cannot reach it in your current environment, I think it is fine to consider changing jobs.

But if it is a 'vague anxiety' that 'I feel like I am not growing somehow while being in this environment'—
First, ask yourself,

' Have I really done everything I can do myself?'

Please try asking that.

Before changing your environment, I think it is fine to think about and act on whether there is work you can do in your current environment, or if you can negotiate with your boss to get more discretion in your work.
That, too, will become a great source of growth.
If you do not do this and blame the environment, I think you will develop a habit of 'other-blaming thinking.' If you want to 'grow,' I can say for sure that you should avoid this way of thinking.

'How you quit' also becomes part of your career

I have quit companies several times before, but every time, it was very heavy on my heart.
Being held back, feeling sorry, feeling scared...

But, I decided to convey it firmly in my own words and there were times when I had many discussions. I have gone out to eat, played golf, and worked together with people from all the companies I quit. Even though we hadn't been in touch for a while, we met after a long time and suddenly started working together. There are people whose relationships deepened precisely because we faced each other.

Using a resignation agency might make you feel better 'in this very moment.' However, I also feel it is a bit of a waste to completely reset your human relationships that way. Also, even if you feel better in the moment, you might be left with a lingering feeling for the rest of your life that you 'should have said it yourself.'

Even if it is scary, even if it is awkward.
The experience of 'concluding a part of your career in your own words' will
lead to confidence in yourself afterward, as well as trust from others.

Quitting is fine. But, you can also make 'not quitting' an option.

I have absolutely no intention of denying changing jobs.
A new environment can change your life.
It can expand your possibilities. In fact, my note about my own job-changing experience is the one that has received the most praise from everyone.

But, there is also value in continuing.

Finally.

It is okay to quit. It is okay not to quit.
The important thing is to 'think carefully for yourself and choose for yourself.' I think you will feel clearer if you decide for yourself, rather than for reasons like 'everyone else is changing jobs' or 'I want to look better to others.'
I believe that anyone who faces that choice squarely will be able to move forward properly, whichever path they choose.