Overcoming the Yips 011: I cannot resist the 'if I do this, I'll get better' type of thinking

Answer

▶The formula: 'If I do this, I'll get better' = 'I am no good as I am now'

You understand this well enough as knowledge.

All that remains is how to truly internalize it through experience,

'If I do this, I'll get better' thinking is 'I am no good as I am now' thinking, which is self-denial.

Furthermore, because it is also a desire to 'want to get better' (which also involves the arrogance of thinking you should be able to do it), since you haven't achieved it yet, you are likely also feeling a faint sense of anger being triggered.

Because of that, you lose focus, and in the end, your tennis doesn't go well either.

'If I do this, I'll get better' thinking can be called a path that rushes headlong into suffering.

▶Do 'self-help books' highlight that you are no good?

However, most of the self-help books in the world deal with 'if I do this, I'll get better' thinking (even if not all of them do).

They wouldn't sell very well if they published 'how to become no good' books, would they...

They stir you up by saying things like 'You can do more!', 'Self-actualization!', 'You can become rich!'.

Because of that, you start to believe, 'Maybe I'm no good as I am now...'

Before being stirred up, you surely didn't think you were particularly no good.

'They say so-and-so is capable.'

'If you try hard, you can get into a good school too.'

'I see, I'm no good as I am!'

You have been thoroughly indoctrinated with this since you were a child.

Therefore, the more you are encouraged toward self-improvement, the more it becomes a path that rushes headlong into suffering.

'I am no good as I am, not having achieved it!'

'I have no value as I am now, not having self-actualized!'

'I have no money, I am miserable!'

Oh my...

It has become an 'implication'.

▶Why 'knowing what is enough' is the strongest approach

First, please do not deny the 'if I do this, I'll get better' thinking, but accept it as it is.

It is true that when you are young, it is normal to find it hard to resist 'if I do this, I'll get better' thinking.

However...

'If I do this, won't I get better?'

'If I do that, won't I succeed?'

'What should I do to be more successful?'

I am telling you that all of those are 'thoughts'.

There are also the environment you grew up in, your personality, your qualities, your strengths and weaknesses, and your luck.

There is only one way to break through 'if I do this, I'll get better' thinking.

'Knowing what is enough'.

At the very least, even just the circumstance of 'being able to play tennis' is blessed when viewed from the perspective of the whole world.

In that country, they are trading their rackets for guns to fight.

Yet in Japan, you have the joy of being able to stand on a tennis court without worrying about your safety.

▶There is nothing left but 'gratitude'

If you look at reality as it is in that way, feelings of gratitude for being able to play tennis will fill your heart.

Since the results no longer matter and there is nothing but 'gratitude,' greed and anger will disappear entirely.

Then, because there is no stress to disturb your mind, your concentration will increase as a result.

With 'knowing what is enough,' everything goes well.

▶Salary is 'more than enough' to 'overflowing'

Many people in the world complain about dissatisfaction and shortages, saying “I don't get paid enough.” However, from the perspective of “knowing what is enough,” I take the position that what we receive is

“too much.” Therefore, it ends up being more than enough.

Instead of looking at what is missing, notice what is there. When your
heart is filled in this way, it naturally reflects in your daily way of living.


I mentioned earlier that “there is also luck and misfortune,” but if your heart is full, it is inevitable that even luck will be on your side.
Yet, if you are
troubled by thinking “It’s not enough!”, it is because you are looking at what is “missing.” “I have no academic background” → “That’s why I can’t get a job”

“I have no love” → “I want to be loved more” “I have no money” → “I wish I was born into a rich family”
A heart that begs for what it doesn't have actually invites a poor (painful) situation (misfortune).

▶ It is painful because you are in “begging for what you don't have” mode

Usually, before we even realize it, we tend to live in “begging for what you don't have” mode. “I have no money,” “I have no time,” “It’s not enough.” If you live in “begging for what you don't have” mode, there is

no end to listing what you lack, so you end up feeling like you are “full of nothing.”

Similarly, if you live with “if I do this, it will get better” thinking, you end up thinking that you are “full of things that aren't good.”

When you think “I want to be loved,” it’s like only having eyes for the “lacking charm (looks? kindness? thoughtfulness? financial power?)” in yourself. There is truly no end to listing what you don't have.

However, when you live in “knowing what is enough” mode, from that moment on, you are “full of things that are there.”


Even just by taking a quick look,
there is a desk, there is a smartphone, there is health, there are smiles, there is a place to live, there is life. You are filled.

No, you were already filled.

▶ “Endurance” is completely unnecessary

That is different from the “endurance” of self-sacrifice.

Saying “I don't have this, I don't have that” is much more painful and is definitely a form of “endurance.”
Through the practice of “knowing what is enough,” the “if I do this, it will get better” thinking should vanish into thin air.

And, when your heart is filled with “things that are there,” it will be reflected in your daily life as well.

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