[It's Okay] Characteristics of Love Addiction That Are Easy to Mistake for Love, and How to Cure It

Love Class for Sensitive Women

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Hello.
I'm Goro Tameike, a love therapist.
Today, I have received a consultation from Kizuko-san.

She says, "Even though I've been studying so much under you, Goro-san,

I still can't get him out of my head...He canceled our date at the last minute the other day,

and I haven't seen him for three weeks now.
I cry every night.
When he's not around,
I feel like I'm empty inside."
That is her consultation.

Love addiction is not a "weakness"

Anxiety, you see,
tends to calm down a little when you acknowledge it.

Since he canceled the date,
you haven't been able to see him for weeks.
You cry at night,
and you feel empty when he's not around—.

Does this feeling ring a bell?

Many people think,
"I'm suffering because I love him too much."

But actually, that might be
love addiction.

The true nature of love addiction

Love addiction is not love itself.

It is a state where you are trying to fill the anxiety and fear in your heart
with a romantic relationship.

Everyone has,

・Memories of not being understood
・Memories of feeling lonely
・Memories of feeling unappreciated

Everyone has such"old emotional wounds."

Those old wounds, which are usually closed,
open up when triggered by events like
not receiving a message or feeling distance.

Then, a hole of anxiety opens in your heart,
and people unconsciously seek something.
It just so happens that it was a romantic relationship.

That is the true nature of love addiction.

Love Addiction Checklist

How many of these apply to you?

・Your mood for the day changes significantly based on messages from him
・You think about him constantly when you're not together
・You can't stop imagining the worst-case scenarios
・You suppress your true feelings to avoid being disliked
・You feel like you have no value if you aren't in a relationship

Even if many of these apply to you,
it doesn't mean you are a failure.

It is also
proof of your high sensitivity and deep capacity for loveas well.

Why you can't break free even though you "know better"

In a state of love addiction,
your brain is not in "thinking mode."

Your brain is making this judgment:
"Being alone is dangerous"
and "I need security right now."

That is why you temporarily lose your sense of self
and the ability to make calm judgments.

It's not because you are weak.
It is a natural reaction to survive.

What is important for breaking free from love addiction

What is important
is not to force yourself to be strong.

First of all,

・Do not deny your anxious self
・Look at "what is painful right now" rather than "I want him"
・Do not focus all your need for security on him alone

And,
even if you feel anxious,
cultivate the sense of being able to return to yourself.

Summary

What I wanted to convey this time is very simple.

・Love addiction is not love, but
a state of trying to fill inner anxiety and fear with romance
・Love addiction is not a weakness, but
proof that you are kind and have been doing your best on your own until now
・The reason you can't break free even though you know better is not because your will is weak, but

simply because your brain has judged that "security is needed right now"

And, what is important for breaking free from love addiction is not forcing yourself to be strong, nor is it giving up on love.

Do not deny your anxious self, notice "what is painful right now," and do not make one person carry the burden of your security.

Even if you feel anxious,
you can properly return to yourself.
That is recovery in the true sense.

You didn't suffer because you are weak.
You just took on too much by yourself because you are kind.

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This was love therapist Goro Tameike.