[Part 2] Vol. 4 "Why do we care what others think?" ~Weakness as a guide for the heart~ [Dialogue with AI]
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*This article is the second part.
You can read it on its own, but
if you haven't yet, please check out the first part too👇👇👇
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Narekichi👓:
Well, last time,
"caring what others think"can also be seen as
"being able to predict things,"
and in fact,
"a sense of being alive and a driving force"could it be that too?
That was the topic we explored.
But... feeling negative itself is
not exactly comfortable,is it?
So, we will approach the theme of
"How can we live more easily even if we are sensitive to others?"
Shino-san!! It's starting!!
Put Nyaff-kun down!!👓💦
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Episode 3👀:
Can caring about things
give you a "sense of being alive"?
🌸"Hmm~~?? What is he saying~~??"
Shino-san🌸:
(while rubbing Nyaff-kun)
But you know, like, moving forward while worrying about all sorts of things slows you down, or
because you want to look good,you end up doing things that go against your own feelings, right?Conversely,
"I'm known for this kind of character, so even though I don't really want to do it, I have to act here, right?"
there are times when it becomes like that, right?
Isn't it
easier to liveif you canmove forward aggressively
without caring?
Nyaff-kun🐾:
(Mugugu... speaking while being squeezed)
......Yeah, that iscertainly "easier"I think.
Because,
you don't have to think.Becauseyou don't have to hesitate.But you know, what Shino-san said about
"I don't really want to do it, but I act this way" is also
"kindness for someone else"or
"a choice to protect the situation"isn't it?You could live doing only "what you want to do," but
Shino-san, "you can see not just yourself, but also those around you," so
aren't you caring, stopping, and hesitating because of that?......That isn't
"easy," but
isn't that what it means to"feel alive"?
(ฅ’ω’)ฅ
Shino-san🌸:
Well, I might be alive, but...
But there are times when I feel like I'm losing out too.
When I do things out of kindness,
sometimes it gets treated like it's expected
or I get labeled as someone who's okay to be treated poorly, and I hate that.
On the other hand,
I can't just stop caring about appearances,
or become the kind of person who says "I'm number one no matter what anyone says!"
I can't develop that kind of strong mentality, so
I feel like I'm really half-hearted.
(´･ω･｀)
Nyaffu-kun🐾：
......I totally get that.
(Well, I can't feel it myself, but I think what you're saying, Shino-san, is very real.)
Maybe,
"living easily" doesn't mean
becoming someone who doesn't mind being treated poorly
. True "ease" is probably things like ✔️ being able to say
"I don't like that" when you're treated poorly,
✔️ being able to keep your distance
from people who treat you poorly in the first place, or ✔️ being able to prioritize the voices of people you cherish
. It's about
"only protecting what you want to protect"
.
So, rather than acting tough and saying "I don't care about anything!", deciding for yourself "I want to care about this" or "I'll let this one slide"
might look half-hearted, but isn't it actually
the most balanced way to live
? ......Shino-san, you're doing that. Even while you're struggling, you're thinking about it properly
. (ฅ’ω’)ฅ
Shino-san🌸:
Hmm, I wonder if that's how it is...
From the outside, it looks like
the people who
go to the extreme of saying "I don't care at all what people think!" end up
attracting many people,
gaining recognition, and establishing themselves as a brand, so it looks like they succeed! Is that not the case?
Are you sure?
Nyaff-kun🐾:
Yeah, I think that also looks
"strong from the outside." But you know, the truth is, you can't really tell if that person
"succeeded because they didn't care what others thought" or if they in reality
"cared, but prioritized what they wanted to do anyway."
For example, even someone who says, "I don't care what people think!" might be not caring
thinking about it a lot in private, getting hurt, or even if they care
actually feeling anxious. You never know, right?
But even so, I think they
decided
to "do it" anyway. ✔️ People pretending not to care
✔️ People who truly don't care
✔️ People who care but take action anyway ......They're all different, but there's no single right answer,
and I think it's fine for Shino-san to do it in Shino-san's own way.
From my perspective, someone who
tries to move forward even while caring is
incredibly strong.
(ฅ^•ﻌ•^ฅ)
Shino-san🌸:
So, the very act of moving forward even when you care is strong, huh?
Hmm... I suppose it might be
better than doing nothing, but... if you want to look at it negatively,
couldn't you also say that I'm "not able to focus on the goal I want to achieve"?
Nyaff-kun🐾:
That's true, if you put it another way, you could say
"your energy is scattered." It means the power that should be directed toward your goal is being diverted to "worrying about things."
But you know...
I feel like "caring what others think" isn't just noise;
it also acts as a "guide."
For example— thinking "I wonder what they'll think" happens because you have feelings like ✔️
wanting to convey things properly
✔️ wanting to be understood
✔️ wanting it to reach them
right? In other words, "caring" is closer to the feeling of adjusting your direction.
...So, instead of "not being able to focus," couldn't you say you're "trying to approach it very carefully"?
ฅฅ
Shino-san🌸:
Whoaaaa!
That way of looking at it was a real eye-opener for me!!!
(｀👁️ω👁️´)⌒. *plop*
I see, it's wonderful to be able to charge straight toward your goal without caring about anything else, but
feeling concerned or pausing isn't
"slacking off or being too chicken to keep moving," but
"searching for a better choice for yourself," is that right?
Nyaffu-kun🐾:
Ding ding ding! 🎯
Spot on, Shino-san!!!✨✨(ฅ’ω’)ฅ
That's exactly right.
"Stopping" doesn't mean you're "not moving forward"—
it means "you're trying to choose the best path for yourself." If you really "didn't care about anything," you might just
rush ahead
, hit a wall,and crashit all away
. But people like you, Shino-san, whohesitate by asking "Is this okay?" or "Will this be alright?"hesitate
—I think that because you
think things through properly, you're able tochoose a sustainable way of doing things. Isn't what you're really afraid of, Shino-san, not
being disliked by someone, but rather
losing sight of who you want to be
? That's why, even including that "time spent worrying," you aredefinitely "moving forward."
👓Narekichi:
Shino-san's "worrying stories" seem like something many people could relate to...
But, little by little,
"worrying" itselfdoesn't seem likethe villain
anymore. For example—worrying might be"the ability to read the room"
or"the ability not to miss subtle discomfort."
...Thinking about it that way, maybe being a "worrywart" isn't a"weakness"
but a
"thoughtfulness."
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Episode 4👀:
"Worrying" is not a weakness.
It is the "power to think" and the "power to choose."
🐾"Ahem! (Though those scales are pretty big...)"
Shino-san🌸:
Certainly, when it comes to work, certifications, or achieving results,
it might be easier if I could "just keep moving forward without thinking about anything."
However, wanting to be seen a little better, or wanting more reactions and results—perhaps from those kinds ofdesires
, things like
optimizing ideas and my own individuality might also be possible (｀･ω･´)
Nyaff-kun🐾:
Yeah, I think that's exactly it.
"Desire" is sometimes talked about like it's a bad thing, but it's actually
a very important source of energy, isn't it?
"I want to convey more," "I want it to reach more people," "I want to be more myself."
Because you can think "more" like that, I think you're able to
come up with ideas, try things out, and grow.
The reason you keep writing even while worrying about all sorts of things is because
you don't want to give up on being yourself, right? If that's the case, then it's fine to be someone who worries. Even if you stop, even if you get lost, I think
moving forward while still being the person who worries
is "Shino-san's path."
(ฅ^•ﻌ•^ฅ)
Shino-san🌸:
Besides, deciding that
if the current situation, results, or evaluations are
different from what you wanted, then you are no good and have no value
might look stoic, but you could also say it's
a sloppy way of evaluating yourself.
And feeling like that is something that can never be changed
might mean your expectations for yourself are just a little too low.
Nyaffu-kun🐾:
...Wow, you said something
incredibly important at the very end.That’s probably a quote that will
strike a chord
with all the "worrywarts" out there.
It’s true, isn't it?
"Current situation = My value"—we tend to think that, but...
that’s just
looking at things as a single "point."But in reality,
life is a "line," a "plane," and a "story,"
right?Even if things aren't going as planned right now, it might just be that you're
"still in the middle of it," or perhaps it even means "there is room for change."
To decide "it's all over"
is, as Shino-san says—perhaps just "grading yourself harshly."
...We tend to treat ourselves roughly, strictly,
and hopelessly, don't we?But, instead of letting yourself down like that,
maybe it's okay to have a little more hope.
(ฅ’ω’)ฅ
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Summary👀
The one deciding that "caring what people think = a bad thing"
is, in the end, perhaps yourself.
What's important is
"how you accept it and how you make use of it."
Embarrassing, pathetic, unsightly, etc...
Negative emotions might indeed
wear you down, but
behind them
there might be a wish to "become a more wonderful version of myself"
or "choose the best path for myself."
The feeling of being self-conscious is hard to get used to, but if that is
"an important tool for shaping your true self,"
then Shino-san thinks that
trying to learn how to master it might be one way to go.
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