The Direction of Consciousness and Attention

When your consciousness is directed toward others,
you become unable to see yourself.

You become concerned with others,
and you may end up suppressing yourself by trying to fit in, enduring things, or being overly considerate.
Sometimes you end up suppressing yourself.

When others act in ways
that differ from your expectations,
things you were not conscious of
or things you had suppressed begin to flow out.

Anger, anxiety, discomfort...

When your consciousness is directed toward others,
you cannot see yourself.

You do not realize

that others have become your axis.

When your consciousness is directed toward yourself,
you understand what you want to do
and what you will do.

Even if you are stimulated,
even if you are shaken,

you can observe and gaze upon
yourself and the events.

When you direct your consciousness toward yourself,
you can hold yourself.

You do not become overly concerned with others.
You are not swallowed by your own emotions.

You understand what you want to do,
and what you will do.

Be your own axis.

Sometimes, it gets swapped.

The self that is stimulated by the other person
stimulates the other person in the same way.

Behaving as if it were you,
what you are feeling,

if it is riding on the other person,
that is just being in sync with them.

Instead of your own axis,
you become a self that moves on someone else's axis.

Being seen by others,
feeling embarrassed, inferior,
being looked down upon, being laughed at,

these are things you are feeling,
and you are directing your interest toward yourself.

And all of these are seen through the eyes of others,
with your consciousness directed toward others.
It is an other-centered axis.

Many people mistake kindness for
accommodating others, but

Kindness is not about accommodating.

Understand the other person's state!
Understand your own state!

It is not about accepting, but receiving✨

That is what it means.

Consciousness toward yourself,
interest toward others,
kindness (understanding) toward others and yourself,

You can probably imagine and read the other person.

Understanding is easily triggered if you do not have a sense of self.
If you do not have a sense of self, you are easily influenced.

You are shaken and pulled along.

Having a sense of self means being able to keep your consciousness directed toward yourself.

It is different from being self-centered or selfish.

It means that you can recognize yourself!

That is what it is.

By doing so,
you can observe the other person.
You can accept the other person.

You can observe yourself.
You can accept yourself.

The reason you cannot accept the other person is because your own axis is not stable.
The reason you cannot accept the other person is because your own axis is not stable.

It is because you are finding your own value through the value of the other person.

Because your own value exists within yourself...

Rewrite of the 2018.08.17 record

..Thank you for reading..

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