Kindness [Re-post]

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Let's be kind

Let's become kind

I am often told this

And I often use these words myself

Of course, it is important

And passing that on

I also think is important

However...

Inside me

I feel a bit of

a hazy, unsettled feeling

****

Let's be kind

Let's become kind

Who are you aiming this at?

Yourself?

The other person?

Both?

Everyone?

Let's become kind

Let's be kind

These words

If you look at it from a slightly different perspective

the way things should be

the message being sought

could also be interpreted as...

Let's be kind!

Light

peer pressure to be kind...

I wouldn't go that far, but

trying too hard to be kind

pushing yourself to be kind

wearing armor made of kindness

might you end up acting that way?

Sometimes I get a little worried...

That is,

being asked to do good deeds, to be a good person,

to be the way one ought to be,

and as if

fitting oneself into that mold...

And, without realizing it,

the purpose shifts toward

satisfying that person's need for approval...

The more you do it,

the more you find yourself unable to accept

those who don't do the same...or rather,

rather

I am becoming less kind...

Sometimes, I feel that way

****

A kind person

Let's try to be kind

Let's try to be a good person

Do good things

Bound by those words

Because I impose them on myself

What is a good person?

What is a kind person?

To me

Things that are taken for granted

To make it a matter of course

That is all I can think of it as

And

You don't have to be a good person all the time

Or a kind person all the time...

...

When it is necessary

To be able to do what is necessary

That is what I think

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Within the relationship with oneself,

A certain person might not be kind to you

Is that person an unkind person?

However,

among the people around that person,

I think there are also people they treat kindly

Is that person a kind person?

Is a person who is not kind to you

truly an unkind person?

I think they are kind somewhere

They just didn't get along well with you

The balance of the functions

that each person possesses just became poor

That might also continue for a long time, but

It might be something that changes again

at some point in time

Each person has a different direction and scope for their kindness

It depends on roles or positions

or the tolerance level that person has

or the capabilities that person possesses

and it also differs depending on their state at that time

The kindness I possess and

the kindness the other person possesses

differ in both quantity and quality

What is the kindness we should offer?

It is to acknowledge the dignity of that person

whether they accept it by saying yes

or whether they say no and do not receive it

That person has the right to choose and assert that

And, in the same way,

I have that same right myself!

It is about acknowledging your own dignity!

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Things that are different from oneself

are difficult to accept

The heart is shaken

and bewildered

Feeling that one's own safety is threatened

each person

is taking actions to protect themselves

at that time

Denying others

Excluding others

Retreating into one's shell

Or making one's existence disappear

I feel the world is changing into one

where these things have become easy to do

Individual respect and diversity are talked about, but

I also see and hear of communities

that become totalitarian and exclusionary

When I sense such things

I feel sad...

However,

everyone is basically

kind

and wants to be a good person

People want to be liked

I think

There is no one who is not kind

It is just that the direction of their kindness is a little different

And, myself as well

Because the kindness I think of

and the kindness the other person thinks of are a little different

we are just confused

Accepting things that are different from oneself

This is very difficult

That is precisely why

being able to accept things that are different

is very wonderful

and is a very kind thing

A tolerant heart✨

I think that is true kindness

****

Let's be kind

Let's become kind

Those words are

of course good

However

a little more specifically!

Let's have a tolerant heart!

Let's acknowledge the other person's dignity!

Let's imagine the other person's background!

Open the eyes of your heart!

Unless the person themselves realizes it

and unless the person themselves tries to change,

there are things that cannot change.

Accepting that person's way of being

just as it is

is what it means to accept them.

What I can do is,

to notice the state of myself and the other person at that moment,

and simply to re-evaluate myself and take action.

~Thoughts rambling on~

The kindness I think of is "tolerance."

By forgiving and being forgiven, tension eases, the heart is unraveled,
and a warm kindness comes to dwell within the heart.

From a note on 2022/02/22♪

・・Thank you for reading・・

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