Reflecting on the relationship between my eldest daughter and me using old documents!

The other day, I thought I would look back on her study abroad experience,

and I was looking at the documents I submitted when my eldest daughter went abroad!

(Wow, this brings back memories!)

(Has it really been four and a half years since I wrote this?)

At the time, my eldest daughter was in her third year of junior high school!

(I wonder what kind of things she wrote?)

As a parent back then, I wondered,

(What kind of things did I write?)

Thinking about that,

I looked over those nostalgic documents!✨

For the study abroad program,

regarding the child and the family,

both parent and child,

answered several questions in the submitted documents.

On my questionnaire...

I. Regarding your child's growth process
(Early childhood, elementary school years, junior high school years)
II. Regarding your child and family situation
(About 8 items)
Others, health aspects, etc...

Well,

It actually said some nice things (laughs).

Thinking, 'Did I really think that way back then?'

It's somehow a bit embarrassing...

It's like looking at the trajectory of my own parenting...

It was such a heartwarming thing.💕

(Question)
Please write specifically about your child's strengths and weaknesses in personality.
Regarding weaknesses, as a parent, how do you perceive them and
how do you deal with them?

(My answer)
Her strengths are that she is gentle, has a casual thoughtfulness and kindness,
and softens the atmosphere around her.

Her weakness is that when she deepens her pursuit, her perspective becomes narrow,
and there are times when flexible thinking becomes difficult.

In such cases, I encourage her to stop, proceed slowly, and rethink.

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It's written so concisely and well, it's decent! (laughs)
But it's true, and I didn't write it just to make it sound good,

(Yes, yes, that's how it was~)

and my memories came back.

(Question)
What points are you careful about in raising your child?
What points do you consider particularly important as discipline?

(My answer)
Nurturing a rich heart and the ability to liveis what I keep in mind.
I consider it important to value the basics in daily life.
Following rules, keeping time and deadlines, greeting others,
and being able to do the obvious things as a matter of course.

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Oh wow! Consistent beliefs!

So that's what I was thinking about discipline back then. (lol)

Maybe it was because my eldest daughter was loose with things? 😅

(Question)
When there is a conflict of opinion between parent and child, how do you handle it?

(My answer)
We talk until we can resolve it.
We discuss each other's opinions, listen, and then think together about what to do next.

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I was actually doing a proper job as a parent back then~(lol)

This is actually quite fun~✨

The child's questions were...

I. About family
II. About myself
III. About school life
etc...

My eldest daughter in her third year of junior high was really thinking for herself back then.

She really had her own firm opinions too.

She wrote something like this...

(Question)
Please provide a brief introduction of every family member and describe your relationship with them
in as much detail as possible.

(Eldest daughter's answer)
My mother is very good at balancing things;
she is strict about important matters, but at other times,
she is like a sister to me, teaching me how to dance and
listening to my problems.

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Oh my goodness! This makes me cry! ✨😭
I'm so happy!

I had no idea she felt this way! 😭

(Question)
Who usually decides on household matters and how?
To what extent is your opinion respected?

(Eldest daughter's answer)
We usually decide things by talking it over together, so
everyone's opinions are respected relatively equally.

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Oh, my eldest daughter! You're saying such nice things! ✨😭

(Question)
What do you think your parents consider to be their responsibility within the family?

(Eldest daughter's answer)
I think they consider it their responsibility to raise us to be sensible people and to look after our future.
It's difficult to be responsible for your own words and actions until you're in junior high school, but as you eventually become a high school student and then a working adult, you have to take responsibility for your own words and actions.
I feel like I'm receiving an education so that I won't have trouble when that time comes because I lack a sense of common sense.

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So that's how she felt.

She really understood my role as a parent.

All things considered, we've built a good parent-child relationship! ✨

I was able to reflect on that. 😊

It is about to be five years

She was 15 at the time, and she will be 20 this year✨

She has been living on her own since starting university

When we meet occasionally, she seems like a fully grown woman now...

Now, like sisters with an age gap,

we go shopping, eat out,

and have fun talking about all sorts of things💕

It was a time where I felt happy about my parent-child relationship with my eldest daughter✨

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