People say it's hard to accommodate others, but...

People say it's hard to accommodate others,

we often say that, don't we!

At some point...

I started thinking like this!

Accommodating others,

it should actually be easy, right?

Accommodating others,

it means saying, 'I'm fine with anything'...

doesn't it?

Since I am the one accommodating the other person,

I don't need to have my own opinion, right!

Letting go of my own opinion,

and accepting the other person's opinion instead!

That's what that behavior is, isn't it?

You don't have to think about anything at all,

you can just go along with the other person and leave it to them...

So you can be irresponsible,

you don't have to be particular about anything,

and since you're just doing what you're told...

you don't have to use any effort,

you don't have to think about anything,

so it should be very easy!

That's what I thought!

Then why does everyone say,

it's hard to go along with others!

it's tiring to go along with others!

If you ask why I say it like this...

It's because I have my own opinions!

It's because I have my own thoughts!

Even though I have my own thoughts...

I'm not communicating them!

You say you've adapted to the other person, but...

You're keeping your thoughts and opinions to yourself,

In reality,

You haven't actually performed the act of adapting!

Isn't that what's happening?

Well, that's the thought I had, anyway.😄

Yes! In other words!

For those in the world who end up adapting to others!

So, the 'it's hard' and 'it's tiring' part is,

continuing to hold onto your own thoughts,

and in reality, it's not actually about adapting...

even though you have your own thoughts,

you can't say them!

things aren't going the way you want!

I think that,

is what is becoming the source of your distress...

I apologize for saying something very rude, but...

to put it bluntly,

on the surface, what is visible,

is that you are adapting...

but your feelings and thoughts, the parts that aren't visible,

are not adapting...

I wonder if that's the kind of state you're in...

That's why,

in order to adapt to someone else...

you can have your own thoughts and feelings, but you have to,

set them aside!

I think you can't do it unless you do this~

I've always thought about it...

that it's easier to just go along with others~

Because you don't have to think about anything, and anything is fine, right!

Even so, why is it that I, the one who is adapting,

have to be this exhausted...

It's not easy because you have your own thoughts!

However,

I have my own thoughts and feelings too!

In that case...

I have to speak up!

By speaking up, we can find common ground!

Even so,

there are situations where you have to adapt!

If that happens,

well, then,since you are adapting,

let's set aside our own feelings and thoughts!

I wonder if that's how it works~

What do you think?😊

Personally, since I started thinking this way,

Adapting to others!

became easier to understand, and switching gears has become easier than before✨💕

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