#3 "If you raise a child with anxiety, the child will also become anxious"
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From the poem "Children Learn What They Live"from
⭐️If you raise a child with anxiety, the child will also become anxious⭐️
Since there is no single right answer to parenting, it's natural to feel anxious, isn't it...
To raise a child with a sense of security,
what should I do?
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Children love scary things!
They find it scary but fun, because
they have a home where they feel safe✨
Real fear is violence from parents, abuse or indifference,
life-threatening illness, or bullying from people close to them...
For a child, this is a very terrifying experience!
If they are always feeling fear,
the child will be timid,
and will always be feeling anxious...
If a secure environment is not provided,
the healthy growth of the child cannot be expected...
A child like this
will not be able to get along well with others
and will become passive about everything...
The book says it like this.
We want to make our children feel secure, don't we?✨☺️
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What are the things that children are afraid of?
Adults sometimes cannot understand a child's feelings.
Things that are nothing to an adult
can be deathly terrifying to a child!
They might even be startled by a trivial word from an adult...
When a child says they are scared,
parents should not think it is ridiculous,
I want to listen with all my heart!
For the child themselves who feels scared,
the fear is their reality💧
We adults should try to see things through the child's eyes!
"What are you talking about?"
"It's nothing."
"You're such a coward."
"You're big enough now."
Are we brushing them off with things like these?
If they are told such things,
it seems the child will only become more frightened...
Reading this,
I understood that I am one of those people who was deeply hurt in my heart by such things when I was little😢
(Though I think my original temperament also plays a part...)
Even now, that sadness still lingers faintly.
Now, we parents worry about things like this!
Are they just saying they are scared to get the parent's attention?
If I listen to everything my child says,
won't I end up spoiling them?
That is,
No need to worry! (so they say)
Even if they are pretending to be scared
because they want to be babied by their parent,
that desire to be babied is something that must be fulfilled!
Just as a child needs food and a place to live,
it is a basic need!
When a child wants to be babied by their parent,
it is often because they are afraid of something...
Parents are a reliable presence for their children✨
Words and physical affection from a parent
calm their feelings and ease their anxiety💕
However,
sometimes major incidents occur within the home...
If their lifestyle up until now
changes completely,
that is something very unbearable for a child...
Children feel as if their world has collapsed
A stable daily life is essential for a child's growth!
Even if children cannot clearly understand the meaning,
if something happens in the home, they sense it,
and that child will fall into an unstable mental state...
In difficult situations, prioritizing the child
is not an easy thing to do, but...
Children during such times especially need their parents' care
Parents should try to be the eyes for their children and listen to them, shouldn't they?🤗
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Things to be careful about!
⭐️Worrying too much has a negative impact on children
Parents worry about their own children
more than they worry about themselves!
But if that goes too far, it can have a negative impact on the child...
A parent's anxiety can spread to the child before they even realize it!
How can we protect our children from danger
without making them unnecessarily anxious?✨
We parents must foster our children's independence,
while also being careful to ensure they are not exposed to danger!
It's a headache-inducing problem, though...💧
Excessive emotional attachment
might be becoming a burden for the child😓
Children have their own ways of doing things!
How much freedom to allow a child
must be considered according to their age.
Children are different from their parents!
Children have their own lives!
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⭐️ Listen to what your child has to say
Parents do not know everything about their child's life.
Sometimes, parents might overlook things.
Some young children will endure things alone without telling anyone.
Parents should make an effort to set aside time to
listen carefully to their child's relationships with others!
"What happened at kindergarten today?"
"And then what did you do?"
"I see. What do you think you should have done?"
"What would have been the best outcome for you?"
Let the child think for themselves!
If parents listen well to what their child says,
the child will think for themselves!
Once they are clear about what they want to do,
they will also understand what to do in the future!
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⭐️Parents get scared sometimes too
As parents, we want to be someone our children can always rely on.
But sometimes, parents feel timid too.
At times like that,
don't put on a brave face✨
It's only human to feel anxious sometimes!
What's important is
how you express that anxiety!
From a parent's honest self,
children learn that humans are imperfect!
And that sometimes, we need the support and encouragement of others!
They learn things like that✨
I have had the experience of my daughter patting me with her little hands!
Parents themselves are sometimes comforted by those little hands✨😊
How can we overcome anxiety?
How do you seek support from your spouse, friends, and relatives✨
How do you support others✨
They learn from seeing that side of their parents, don't they💕☺️
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[Summary]
⭐️If you raise a child with anxiety, the child will also become anxious⭐️
How to face feelings of anxiety
And what kind of solutions to find!
⭐️Don't worry too much!
⭐️Listen earnestly!
⭐️Try to see things through the child's eyes!
⭐️"Wanting to be spoiled" is a basic need!
⭐️Maintain a stable daily life!
⭐️Children have their own lives!
How to express anxiety✨🤗
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