Family Time

Everyone,

How do you spend your wedding anniversary?

I'd like to talk about our family's style😊

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This was about 10 years ago...

Valuing one's own time

Our individualistic family!

Outside, we act naturally,

observing things from a bird's-eye view,

and spending time adaptively,

and if anything, we are reserved in our assertions,

but we are people who have firm opinions inside!

Outside, we stay one step back

We are very good at keeping up appearances~

We are a family of people who are just alike!

But!

As for inside the house...

In order to be a place where we can fully express our opinions,

I move from a position of detachment to a position of vulnerability😅

Everywhere you look,

everyone says whatever they want and does as they please!

It's like if you try to please one person, you end up upsetting another,

and as the one who is always mediating that,

I started to feel like a fool!

Even if I try to explain things clearly with words,

it doesn't get through to someone who doesn't want to think about it.

The only one who can understand the situation is my second daughter.

The fact that the youngest child is the most mature one

made me so angry!

Snap!

For those who don't understand,

an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth!

I decided to stop caring and

did exactly what my family was doing,

mirroring them perfectly! 😆

I thought they might be troubled,

reflect, or at least think about it a little, but...

They seemed a bit confused,

but it didn't get through to them at all~~ (lol) 😂

So that's how it is, huh~ 💦

At this rate, there won't be any place for the family to interact at all~~~~!

Isn't this a problem...?

It's fine to respect the individual, but

we also need to cherish the family unit as well~😓

Even if it's family, there's another person involved, you know~~

Please realize that the family unit exists~~~

In that case!

I have devised a strategy✨

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For our wedding anniversary,

we will spend the time as a family!

I decided on this 10 years ago (lol) 😅

Reason 1: I want to cherish family time!

Because we are individualistic people (lol)

If I don't make it a rule, nothing happens...

I said, "I'm making this a rule! Remember that!" 😅

Reason 2: I want to do what I want for our wedding anniversary!

My husband lacks empathy, so he doesn't understand what makes women happy!

Since his own values are the standard, he says things like, "I don't want to spend my money on things that don't fit that!"...

(Damn it)

Around our 9th wedding anniversary, I snapped! I stopped caring! ‼️

If the other person won't think about it,

I'll plan it myself!

Planning it myself... how sad... 💧

I don't have even the slightest feeling like that!

(I'm going to do it~~~✨)

I placed value on being able to do

what I love! (lol)😄

After all, the other person isn't good at that,
and even if I say something, they won't change,

(They just can't!😊)

So that's not going to happen,

and expecting consideration from them is just wrong!

If there's something I want, I should just take action and make it happen✨

Yeah! Exactly!

As long as what I want to do is fulfilled, that's fine💕

Reason 3. I want it to be a learning experience for the children!

Let them experience it! Experience is my motto✨

Things like the environment of slightly upscale places and the manners required in such settings,

I want them to know about these things, so I want to give them the experience!😊

When I presented this to my husband, we were in agreement on this (lol)😄

(Ah, that's a relief)

Children love beautiful places💖
They get all excited and jump for joy (lol)

Reason 4. I don't want to celebrate just the two of us😓 (Keep it private from the family)

Well, obviously!

He's stingy all the time and never shows any empathy, after all!

Even if we spent time just the two of us,

there's no way it would be fun~~ (lol)😝

It feels better to enjoy things with people who can enjoy them with you✨😊

If you say you can't find value in that, then fine, whatever.
No thanks!

I'll enjoy myself on my own!
But it seems he doesn't like being left out either~ (lol)

A husband who can think when it comes to the children!

If it's for this, my husband will start moving too (lol)

He gets sulky if we leave him out, after all (lol)😅

It's for family time, so I'll give him the benefit of the doubt! (I'm so great, aren't I?✨)

It's better to have children around

because there's someone to enjoy things with

and it lifts my spirits too💕🤗

My family,

didn't see a mother who was doing her best every day...

there was no one to empathize with my feelings,

or to show me appreciation.........

It's sad, isn't it~

(Though things have completely turned around now😆)

It's fine now!

I will show appreciation to myself❗️

Our wedding anniversary is

my day to enjoy!✨

So, I just decided on my own that it would be a day for me to enjoy myself~🤗

And, while I'm at it, my family can enjoy it too!

That's my stance✨

It's a strategy for me to fulfill myself, but

even so,

for my children and my husband,

I think it's something that brings them joy too✨😊

So, since everyone is happy,

my strategy is fine, right? That's how I feel (lol)✨😄

I've been doing this

for 10 years now💖

My day of fun

has eventually become,

A fun day for the family❤️

has transformed into

what is now

a family tradition❗️💖

A space outside of our daily routine

that the whole family

is enjoying💖

Our wedding anniversary is

an important time for the family to gather✨😊

This year, too, we enjoyed our

customary family time💕

(Since it's my presentation~~~✨ How dashing of me~~😂)

This is a bonus shot (lol)

I had my daughter take this from behind, but isn't it just too random?! 😂

This is the restroom! It's so clean, isn't it? ✨

Since I received requests for a full-body shot in a fashion magazine ✨

I've kept my promise~ ♪

It's not often I take photos of myself in the mirror, is it? (lol) 😅
I even took a three-shot with my daughters (lol).

A navy knit set-up 💕 It's a shame I didn't have my nails done... 💧

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My strategy was a huge success, wasn't it~~~ ✨💖😆

And it will continue from here on out.

I'm patting myself on the back for creating something wonderful ✨

I'm sure that from here on,

it will become a time that my family cherishes ✨

That is our family time💖

I love my children so much that

I have been burning videos from when they were little onto DVDs

and we often have family viewing parties (lol)

We enjoy playing Wii Party and other games together,

and we enjoy athletic activities too.

The Christmas party with my cousins' group

was also a hit with the kids,

and even though we are all individualistic people,

I think we all really love our family💖😄

An article about family

...Thank you for reading...