The Environment You Place Yourself In

I value the environment
I place myself in.

I naturally and instinctively feel that
an environment works upon you, for better or worse.

I feel this
naturally and instinctively.

That is why I think about the environment I place myself in
and always cherish it.

The same applies to raising children.

What you gain from a good environment is significant.

Among what kind of people,
with what kind of ideas,
and what kind of things will they learn...

I value everything
that is created in that space.

I suddenly reflected on my own tendencies.

There have always been people nearby
who guided me in a good direction.

Or rather, I am sure that I
was the one choosing those people.

Unconsciously,
instinctively.

For women, it is like admiration and approval
For men, it is like knowledge and tolerance
For peers, it is understanding and acceptance

Looking back,
such tendencies become visible.

With the women I am close to,

I sometimes connect with people who I admire
or who possess things I lack.

There is a feeling of admiration,
or there are things I idealize,

such people are usually kind and caring,

As the eldest daughter,
I feel as if I have taken on the position of a younger sister,

it feels like being a younger sister, and it is comfortable✨

I admire what I do not have
I want to absorb what I do not have

Using them as a partial role model,
while relying on them as an older sister figure,
I incorporate the things I find appealing♪

Also, conversely,
for me as the eldest daughter,

being looked up to, feeling like an older sister, and having others get attached
and rely on me is genuinely happy♡

It tickles my heart, thinking how cute they are♪

I also have many interactions with people who are straightforward and affectionate.
They make good use of my traits as an eldest daughter,

I can be my natural self, and it feels comfortable✨

People with that younger-sister temperament sometimes
feel like little lovers to me.

They lean on me, support me,
and sometimes even take the lead♪

Like a girlfriend, a boyfriend, or a younger sister,
I feel something similar to that, and it brings me peace♡
I can relax and feel at ease♪

They make me realize that
it's okay for me to lean on others sometimes too~

They help me notice that♪

I am relied upon, and I also rely on them,
and there is a comfort in being able to relax♡

From those who are like older sisters, I feel a sense of admiration, goals, and guidance♪
From those who are like younger sisters, I feel a sense of peace and naturalness♪

I perceive those kinds of role models.

Conversely,
with people who are similar to me,
I tend to clash with them...

I suppose it's because we are too much alike.

The parts that get along, and the parts that are unpleasant,
are probably quite similar, aren't they? (laughs)

A person's characteristics are,
because they are the parts that stand out,

for both of us,
both strengths and weaknesses.

In the other person's words and actions,
I feel parts that are similar to my own negative elements,

and I get a somewhat unpleasant feeling,
or feel irritated.
Even if we are close friends! ♪

If we were younger, we might not have become friends?!
We say things like that to each other, or think them (laughs)

As if reflected in a mirror,
I feel like I am being made to see
what is inside myself through the other person.

I wonder why, when we are similar types.
Perhaps our characteristics clash with each other.

Personality clashing with personality,
it's as if our mutual energy is being released...

Relationships always feel like
some kind of balance of energy.

Releasing it, or absorbing it,
coming out strongly, or coming out softly...

For men,

Reliable, protective!
Kind, funny!

Someone who accepts my existence✨

I want to be with someone who provides that kind of sense of security♪

People who make me feel at ease✨

I am connected with such people.

Even when I'm being selfish,
they listen to me with an open heart♪

I feel the same way about my friends as well✨

With men,
there is a great sense of security in feeling protected

With women,
there is a great sense of security in the closeness of empathy and understanding

I feel that kind of dynamic in my connections.

What they have in common is,

A sense of security✨

Because it is something within yourself,
the environment you place yourself in,

naturally connects you with such people,
and before you know it, they have gathered around you.

Although it feels like it happens naturally,

in reality, the environment you place yourself in is,

something you feel in your heart, think about in your mind, or,
unconsciously

might be something you are choosing yourself...

I think it is something I have been cherishing myself✨

I often hear about the law of attraction,
and while people talk about attraction or having good luck,

I feel that what is inside me
is related to it!

Good luck or bad luck is less about luck,
and more like attraction or catching something,
a way of choosing or a way of moving forward...

It is what your heart is unconsciously choosing

The state of your heart✨
How you set your heart✨

I feel that is just how things are.

It is up to you to create an environment where you feel comfortable.

That is what I believe.

Therefore, the environment I place myself in,
looking at myself, looking at others,
I am carefully nurturing...

~Way of Being~

..Thank you for reading..