Frustration

Frustration

Feeling frustrated with things other than myself
Feeling frustrated with myself

Because things aren't going the way I want...

Frustration

People have
feelings of frustration

To feel frustrated is

I want things to go my way

a feeling of

Feeling frustrated because someone does something
Feeling frustrated because those around me do something
Feeling frustrated because everyone does something
Feeling frustrated because of myself

Often expressed in words
When I do

Because of so-and-so and making them the villain

words that do that come out

I feel frustrated when someone does X
That means

Iwant todo something

If you put it into your own words

I want to do...
I am...

It becomes words that convey your own expectations and hopes!

You might think you were made to feel frustrated, but

you were the one who felt frustrated,

because things didn't go the way
you expected or hoped for,
you became frustrated.

It's because you have the feeling of wanting things to go your way.

That's why you feel that way♪

Frustration is

an emotion that occurs when you cannot control things,
or when you want to control (dominate)
things to go your way.

an emotion that arises

Frustration: dissatisfaction or thwarted desires

But that is a normal reaction

It is something naturally present, and
I don't think the reaction itself is a bad thing

When it happens,

Can you deal with it calmly?

I think that is what is important✨

Frustration is,

because you cannot control (dominate) the other person or the situation,
you are feeling unpleasant and angry
that things are not going the way you want

The reason you can deal with it even when you feel frustrated is

because you are not trying to
control (dominate) the situation

because you can handle it flexibly
by adapting to the situation

If you stop trying to make things go your way,
frustration will decrease♪

Adapting to the other person, adapting to the situation,
looking at the other person, looking at the situation at hand,

you can adjust by adapting to the circumstances

It means you can let it pass by♪

It is not about forcing yourself,
and it is not about enduring it either

To be able to observe events as they are
To accept (clarify) things in a positive sense

To align with something means

It is simply to align with the event!

It is nothing more and nothing less than that,
not just holding onto things in your hands,

but to set them down, to let them go

that is all it is, but

trying to do something about it,
or wanting things to go your own way,

if you continue to dwell in those kinds of emotions,

that is what leads to frustration...

Between people,
feeling frustrated
is something that overflows in daily life.

You feel frustrated with your children because you want to make them do as you wish...

You feel frustrated with your husband because things are not going the way you want...

You feel frustrated with others because they are not doing what you think they should...

And you feel frustrated with yourself
because things are not going the way you want...

Everyone
gets frustrated
when things don't go according to their expectations or hopes.

Wanting to make things go your way,
wanting to have things your way

Those feelings

unconsciously,

or being aware of them and
being able to adapt to the situation

is because you can gain awareness!

Reflecting on yourself and
being able to view things objectively

being able to listen,
being able to imagine the other person's position,
and being able to put yourself in their shoes

is likely because you can stay calm
and make improvements.

Ah, I might be
trying to make things go my way right now,
or something like that♪

Of course, there are unfair or unreasonable things,
and there are times when you need to assert yourself.

If you can think calmly,
you will be able to express that
and your thoughts appropriately.

People who don't realize that
remain trapped in their emotions forever and
bark.

Making the other person the villain, making something the villain,
always doing that

Suffering because things aren't going the way you want

The one who wants to make things go their way is
not just the other person or those around you

but you yourself as well

Dissonance

When you feel a flash of irritation

that is

a sign that you want to make things go your own way

It should be like this,
this is correct,
I want it to be like this,
I want to do this

Inside your own thoughts...

Suddenly, become calm and look back on it, okay?♪

Aren't you trying to make things go your own way?

Am I expecting too much from others?

I wonder♪

Frustration is
the desire to have things go my way

I suppose that is the feeling

~Self-control~

Rewriting a draft that had been sleeping

Feeling frustrated is
a common occurrence

Depending on the situation and my self-esteem,
the degree of reaction varies from time to time

I hope to be able to
deal with troublesome frustration a little better,
something I want to keep in mind for myself as well

I was impressed by Ahn Mika's words

Asking myself if I'm expecting too much from people
being able to reflect on that is a good thing✨

When I feel frustrated, I ask myself...

・・Thank you for reading・・

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