Things I feel while working...

There are children who cannot tell their parents how they feel...

There are children who cannot tell their teachers how they feel...

Even if they are listened to, they are denied...

Surely, I will be scolded...

Surely, I will be told no...

In the end, it becomes whatever Mom says...

I don't want them to know...

They won't understand me...

The words that come out of the mouths of children

who are struggling...

They don't feel their own dignity...

There are times when I feel that way...

Children suppress themselves,

imagining things on their own,

thinking it might be this!
or it might be that!

about a future they don't yet know...

negatively assuming...

avoiding things so they don't get hurt...

worrying about the judgmental eyes of parents, teachers, and others...

And then,

they cannot decide things for themselves...

When their emotions run high,

it manifests as inappropriate behavior...

it manifests as physical symptoms...

Things they don't understand or are troubled by

they cannot fully convey...

and they remain unsure of what to do...

Even if they look energetic,

here and there

Suddenly

I sometimes see that kind of scene...

It's not that parents aren't listening to their children,

they do listen to their children,

and are actually supporting them!

However...

the children themselves still have something deeper

that they haven't been able to fully convey...

Or,

they don't know...

They have become unable to understand it themselves...

Hiding my true feelings and being vague...

Acting out or behaving in ways

that might be seen as selfish...

Seeing that,

parents and those around them don't know what to do...

Only the visible,

undesirable behaviors catch their eyes...

And they want to teach them what is right...

But the children know it too!

What they are doing...

The behaviors that are considered desirable!

But...

I don't even know myself... something is...

getting in the way...

and I just can't seem to do it...

Good or bad

Correctness

Evaluation

It's all just things like that

that I'm measured by...

The children's feelings

remain uncollected...

I'm feeling restless and frustrated...

This is,

probably not limited to just children...

I think the same can be said for adults...

It's the same for everyone!

Everyone,

wants their feelings to be understood!

That is what they wish for!

What was discussed in the training,

to listen to their side of the story!

I think this is a very important thing...

Accept things as they are, without judgment

I want you to accept me...

Whether you are in trouble

Or not in trouble

Whether you are a child

Or an adult

Isn't that what everyone thinks...?

What to do is very simple!

Listen to what they have to say without judging!

And yet...

Why is it that we can't do that...?

On the side of the listener,

subjectivity appears and starts to assert itself...

They show understanding, but...

It doesn't quite reach the level of empathy...

The children

might be feeling that way...

Empathy is difficult...

To those who understand,

I can talk, but...

To have them understand my feelings,

empathy is necessary!

When the person you want to share your feelings with

doesn't understand you,

it must be very sad...

Child

Adult

Other people

Myself

Everyone...

It would be good to be able to express one's feelings...

Empathy is difficult, but...

Accepting things as they are is

nourishment for the heart!

Little by little,

the children

have started to be able to talk about themselves...

Strangely, they become calmer...

Developing the ability to communicate in one's own words

They start to be able to communicate

They start to be able to interact through words

Little by little

a relationship of trust is being built

The fact that the homeroom teacher and the child themselves

are building that relationship

is wonderful!

Although there is instability,

without getting too down, holding on,

I feel that they are being lifted up!

Even if there are things I want them to remember

as part of their learning...

First, listen to what they have to say!

Accept it!

And then,

once their feelings have settled,

think about how to reconcile things together...

Present several options for possibilities

Think for yourself

Decide for yourself...

Think about it as your own matter!

Child-rearing too

Interpersonal relationships too

What you do is the same!

It's simple!

Listen to what the other person has to say!

Without judgment, just as they are

Set aside your subjectivity...

My job is

to be close to the hearts of the children

Watching the children grow

Seeing them full of life

It is a joy to behold💕

・・Thank you for reading・・

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