[Oshikatsu] For those without hobbies! How to cultivate what you love starting today

On Christmas Day, I went to Shosen Book Tower in Akihabara.

I went to the publication commemorative event for the autobiography "Strong, Noble, and Beautiful" by talent, actress, and former professional wrestler Saki Akai!

The note I wrote about Saki Akai in the past is below ↓

I was nervous in the presence of her god-like beauty... I received the book and was able to have a conversation with her when we high-fived!

At the end, she kindly said, "There are a lot of people getting carried away with Christmas, so be careful on your way home," and my heart was pierced.

I'm really glad I participated. The book, autograph, and postcard I got from participating are below ↓

● My Oshikatsu

I have a 0-year-old son, but I am doing Oshikatsu with the cooperation of my husband.

Recent Oshikatsu I've done ↓

People tell me, "Haruka, you enjoy life," but I was never that type of person to begin with. I felt impatient as if the days were just passing by. That is precisely why I am now very conscious of keeping my antenna up to enjoy my days.

● The time I was impatient

In my 20s, I was busy with work, and before I knew it, the movies I wanted to see had finished their theatrical runs, and the books I bought because I wanted to read them just slept on the bookshelf.

There were times when I had to cancel plans to meet friends because I worked too hard and got sick, and there were times when I shut myself in at home because I wanted to sleep more than meet people. At that time, my sensitivity toward "liking" things had become quite dull.

However, I met my husband who has many hobbies and was stimulated by the thought that "there are so many things I don't know!", and my hobbies have increased, such as professional wrestling, traveling, and eating delicious food!!

However, I suffered from morning sickness during pregnancy, and my sense of liking things had faded.

Even when I did something I liked occasionally, once it was over, I would despair, thinking, "I've lost my hope for living."

And after giving birth, I became even more depressed.

Every time I saw dark news, I would think, "I gave birth to a child in such a painful world." Looking back, I wasn't being calm, but I really thought that way, and there were times when I would shed tears every time I looked at my child's face. It's terrifying, but I felt like Chihiro Onitsuka's "Gekko"!! Eek!!

Also, every time I remember various things and look at my cute son's face, I feel guilty...

I was seriously suffering from maternity blues!

But, as I made an effort to find things I like, my sensitivity gradually started to return.

The world is actually quite interesting, isn't it!!

That's how I've started to feel.

I want to tell my son that "the world is full of interesting things," and I hope he will also keep his antenna up for interesting things and teach me about the interesting things he finds in the future.

But I've recently realized that finding things you like also requires effort, and I've come to think that in order to feel excited by doing things you like, you also need the mental space to accept that excitement.

● How to train your ability to like things

I use a free "To-Do List" app for myself. I am currently using TickTick (the free version).

Using a to-do list app makes the tasks you need to do clear.
In my to-do list for today, I have included "find something fun to do."

For example, today is a day with no events, but as a fun thing to do, I added "read Saki Akai's autobiography."
That is my fun plan.

Even if I do something I like and think, "That wasn't actually that fun," I try to adopt the mindset of "I'm great for making time for myself."

I keenly feel that the feeling of liking something, in a sense, needs to be consciously trained.

Of course, it would be nice if there were fun things every day, but it doesn't always go that well.

That is why I try to take action whenever there is something I might be able to challenge myself with.

I also think of this note as a place that lets me challenge myself with various things. That is why I am grateful to those who read it!!

Also, when I'm feeling a bit off, I try to dance (if you search on YouTube, there are many dances that won't bother the people living below you, even in an apartment).

Or, I try to headbang (the act of shaking your head violently up and down to the rhythm) while listening to music.

Moving your body clears your mood and makes you feel refreshed, so I recommend it.

Also, I recently bought a stepper!!

I can write notes while holding my child and stepping, or exercise while reading or watching TV, so even a lazy person like me has been able to keep it up every day.

I like it because I can exercise my legs while sitting, and it also has a massage effect.

I feel every day that the realization that I am taking action for myself also leads to peace of mind.

● After reading "Strong, Noble, and Beautiful"

In Saki Akai's autobiography "Strong, Noble, and Beautiful," there is a description of how she received quite a bit of bashing for being the only female wrestler belonging to the men's professional wrestling organization DDT.

Also, when she won the Pro-Wrestling Award for Rookie of the Year, she was told by people in the same wrestling industry, "Can you win it just by doing talent work? Shouldn't they change the name to the 'Visualist Award'?" and she apparently received many aggressive DMs on social media as well. It made my heart ache to read it.

Having overcome such experiences, I felt that for Saki Akai, beauty is not about physical appearance, but that "beautiful equals strong." It was written that this strength is not about physical ability, but about the strength of the heart.

It was very good to read about the process of Saki Akai, who had a broad perspective and whose heart was gradually wearing thin from being too considerate of others, encountering professional wrestling and growing through her efforts.

It also taught me the coolness of having a value standard of "whether it is beautiful or not" in everything.

I also thought Saki Akai's mother was a very strong, tough, and wonderful person. I was thrilled when she gave her daughter pointers on how to glare at people.

I love this autobiography because it is packed with not just beauty, but also human nature and reality.

I would like to recommend this book to both wrestling fans and those who are not.

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