Q: What is love?

I previously posted the following on X👇

It is true that creatures other than humans do not engage in "love."

Emotions become clear only when intelligence is present.

I would like to think about this a little more deeply.

Why is love so difficult?

The feeling of liking someone is very simple, isn't it?
I want to see you, I want to talk to you, I want to be by your side.

It should be just that, but
before I know it, I'm worrying, getting lost, and feeling pained.

You've had that experience, haven't you?

That is surely becauselove is not made of "emotion" alone.

If it were driven only by emotion,
it would have been much simpler.

I'm with you because I like you.
I'll leave if I don't like it anymore.

It should be complete with just that.

But in reality, it's different.

Thinking about the other person's feelings,
worrying about timing,
choosing your words.

Constantly thinking about "how to make things work."

This is where "intelligence" comes into play.

For example, when a reply is slow.

Feeling lonely is just the emotion.

But then,
"Maybe they are busy"
"Maybe it's better to wait for now"

Thinking like that is intelligence.

When the balance between these two breaks down,
love suddenly becomes painful.

If you lean too much on emotion,
you get tossed around by anxiety.

If you lean too much on intelligence,
you become cold.

That is why love is difficult.

Both are important,
and it cannot exist with just one.

I want you to stop and think for a moment here.

Which one are you leaning toward right now?

Are you acting on pure emotion?
Or are you overthinking it?

When things aren't going well in love,
this balance is often broken.

You like them so much that you become anxious.
You overthink and create distance.

I think many of you have experienced both.

But that is by no means a bad thing.

It is proof of how much you care for someone.

However, to handle those feelings well,
it becomes important to "know" a little bit.

How do I tend to feel?
When do I get anxious?

Just by understanding that,
your actions will change little by little.

Love cannot continue on instinct alone.

And it cannot continue on logic alone.

It starts with emotion,
and you nurture it with intelligence.

Because of this flow,
I believe the relationship deepens.

Therefore, the phrase "don't be swept away by emotions"
is not meant to deny emotions.

Rather,
it is a phrase to cherish your emotions.

To avoid breaking your precious feelings.
To continue your precious relationship.

Stop for a moment and think.

Love is a relationship that only humans can have.

That is why it is difficult,
and that is why it is beautiful.

Emotion and intelligence.

To layer those two well.

When you can do that,
I believe love goes beyond just "liking" someone,
and becomes something much deeper.