Not judging👍

(The title is in 'hiragana' on purpose. I wanted to give it a gentle feel🎵)

☕ About judging

I'm sharing something I remembered while talking with a note friend the other day👍

There was a note friend who has already left the platform, whom I respected very much.
Words from their note still remain in my heart today.
Those words are:

"Listen to what people say, but don't judge them"

I especially like that stance of"not judging".

It's impossible for me to judge people💦
I can't make objective judgments, and I'm not in a position to do so anyway.

☕ Being conscious of not judging

Everyone has moments in their daily life where they think,"( ,,`･ω･´)Hmm?"

For example,

We all have small frustrations like that, don't we? (^^♪

At those times,
if you have a habit of judging,

It often ends up like that 💦

And then,
you might openly dislike that person as a "bad person," or
even tell people around you,
"That person is like that, so they won't apologize,"
thinking you're being helpful (though in the end, it's just bad-mouthing).

That is such a natural flow of events that
I think we get used to it
without even questioning it.

However,
if you try to be conscious of "not judging" at that moment,

That might be how it goes.

Maybe it won't? ( *´艸｀)

☕ Getting frustrated with others might be because you don't have enough emotional space yourself?

By having that one perspective,
I think you can sometimes cool down a bit.

More than anyone or anything,
getting frustrated is really only a loss for yourself💦

If you can't stay calm, you'll only end up making yourself feel worse.

'I'm not at fault at all, it's all the other person's fault'

I think there are ways to get by by thinking that way, but
usually, similar frustrating situations keep happening,
and you end up with even less emotional space.
It often turns into a vicious negative loop💦

Besides,
picking out only the things to blame in others
means you're only looking at people's bad points.

The yardstick that should be objective
has become extreme at that point.

Rather than that,
'I don't have any emotional space today, so being together is exhausting.'
thinking that,
it might be better to keep a slightly larger distance than usual.

When you don't have emotional space,
you lack calmness,
and you tend to judge things from a one-sided perspective.

Furthermore, you tend to unilaterally make someone other than yourself the 'bad guy'.

It might be good to calm down and think about whether it's really something you can't forgive💦

☕ It's natural for there to be people you don't get along with

I think everyone has people they find it hard to be around because your values just don't align.

Your original personalities are different,
the environments you grew up in and your interactions with family are different,
and furthermore, what you've learned from life is completely different,
so it's only natural.

That is exactly when you should use a gentle distance .
It's impossible to get along with everyone,
or to be best friends with everyone.
It's fine to keep a distance where you can just say hello,
without hating each other.

Even with your best friend, it is very important
to keep a distance where you both feel comfortable
without overstepping.

As a tip,

Is that weird?
( *´艸｀)

I might have gotten off track halfway through,
but that was just something I felt like writing on a Sunday morning🎵

May we both have a day filled with smiles today as well💖