From "Lessons for Winning at the End of Life" by Hiroshi Osaki and Shion Kabasawa
Hiroshi Osaki: Finding your own "place to belong" through "mental management"
I think it's fine for everyone to have their own "place to belong" and their own "yardstick for happiness."It is precisely because you can think of yourself as "happy" that feelings of gratitude arise, and the desire to "share this happiness with others" is born.
It's like Mitsuo Aida's saying, "Everyone is different, everyone is good." I truly agree with Mr. Osaki's way of thinking: ignore trivial things like who is a winner or a loser, just be happy if you are enjoying yourself, and find happiness based on your own values.
When you feel life is difficult or lonely, it's surprisingly good to live by managing your heart and saying, "Let's take it easy."I want to tell people that if you live naturally and cheerfully without worrying about what others think, you will definitely have lucky encounters.
People are often not as interested in you as you think they are, so I think that's fine. It's about saying that if you are always bright and smiling without worrying about the eyes of others, isn't that enough? Don't have a hobby because you're lonely, but engage in a hobby because you want to do it. That kind of thinking is good, isn't it?
Hiroshi Osaki's "12 Rules for Becoming Happy" (1)
1. Do not try to bloom where you are planted
2. Do not stare too much at your loneliness
3. Do not try to compete
4. Do not try to work until you reach your limit
5. Do not try to make everything black and white
6. Do not try to make friends
As expected, it carries a different weight when said by someone who climbed to the top of the world managing the entertainment industry. Well, the content is very simple, though. It's a message that sounds like Mr. Osaki's voice saying, "Let's take it easy, relax your shoulders, and enjoy life."
Hiroshi Osaki's "12 Rules for Becoming Happy" (2)
7. Do not try to consult others
8. Do not try to decide on a destination
9. Do not be too rational
10. Do not try to make everyone understand you
11. Do not set too many rules
12. Do not seek a place to belong in a location
It's truly "Luke, use the Force" (from Star Wars). Since the answer is within you, don't consult others about your worries. Also, don't try to persuade people to understand you. And it seems important not to "make too many rules" about this and that.
Shion Kabasawa: Achieve a happy life with the "Three-Tiered Box Theory of Happiness"!
There is no way someone who feels "life is hard now" or "life is painful now" can suddenly become happy 10 years from now.A "happy life" only exists after accumulating "today's happiness." (Omitted)What you should really think about is, "What can I do now?" It is more important than anything to "focus on the present, not the past or the future."
I have read many of Shion Kabasawa's books, and his explanations, which hit home so well, are comforting; this time, too, I nodded many times, thinking, "Indeed!" After all, what's important is to focus on the "now." It's a waste of time to grumble and regret the past or worry about a future that hasn't even happened yet. Shion Kabasawa's message to cherish the "now" and live your life really strikes a chord.
What is serotonin-based happiness (happiness of health)?
In a word, it is the health of the mind and body.This refers to the state of being in good physical condition or good spirits, or the feelings, emotions, and sensations of "feeling good" or "feeling refreshed" that can only be felt because one is in good shape.The simplest and most reliable methods are "sleep," "exercise," and "morning walks."By making these three a habit, serotonin is secreted reliably, creating the foundation for serotonin-based happiness.
People often talk about "mind, technique, and body," but here they are saying that the health of the "mind" and "body" comes first. But this is truly the most important thing, isn't it? Because if your mind and body aren't healthy, you can't do anything. The wonderful thing about Shion Kabasawa is that he doesn't just end with these kinds of "image" talks, but explains them properly in conjunction with brain science (the serotonin part). And he even provides ways to deal with it! I will do my best with "sleep," "exercise," and "walking" (laughs).
What is oxytocin-based happiness (happiness of connection)?
Effective methods include interaction and physical contact with a partner, conversation and communication with friends, small acts of kindness or volunteering, and interaction with pets.Oxytocin is secreted through these actions.
Once the health of the mind and body is maintained, the next step is to deepen "emotional connections." It is true that being surrounded by and interacting with things (people) you like, and people (things) who like you, deepens the richness of your heart. From the perspective of brain science, it is said that oxytocin is secreted in the brain.
What is dopamine-based happiness (self-growth substance)?
For example, the sense of accomplishment you feel when you work hard and achieve results is due to the action of dopamine.When dopamine is secreted, concentration, productivity, and motivation increase, and memory improves.To obtain it, it is effective to "be grateful for money and things," "challenge yourself with tasks that are a little difficult and feel self-growth," "do things that excite you," and "act in ways that give to others."
When you want a little more stimulation, it is fine to explore dopamine-based happiness. Since "a sense of accomplishment" falls under this, you will be able to feel it when you work hard on something and it results in an achievement. It could be at work, or I think you can also experience it in small games. Of course, moderation is important, though...
Mistaking the priority of happiness leads to unhappiness
To conclude,the priority is (1) serotonin-based happiness (health of mind and body) -> (2) oxytocin-based happiness (connection) -> (3) dopamine-based happiness (money, success).If you neglect your own health and aim for money or success, you will fall into mental or physical illness. Furthermore, if you lose your health, you will make your family anxious, and communication with friends will become difficult.
That is truly correct; I strongly agree with the idea that everything starts with the health of the mind and body. "If you have energy, you can do anything" (by Antonio Inoki) - that is exactly it.