What are the things you absolutely must not do on the day you think, 'Maybe they're cheating'? Things to check before consulting a private investigator 📝

'Could they be cheating?'

From the moment you think that, the scenery of your daily life starts to look a little different.

Coming home late.
Placing their phone face down.
Hiding the screen the moment a notification sounds.
Paying more attention to their clothes than before.
Suddenly having more drinking parties or overtime.
Even when asked, their answers are somehow vague.

If it were just one thing, you might have been able to dismiss it as your imagination.

However, when several things pile up, an unpleasant feeling remains deep in your chest.

'Are they really cheating?'
'Am I just overthinking it?'
'Will they get angry if I confront them?'
'Will I find out something if I look at their phone?'
'Is it serious enough to consult a private investigator?'

The time spent suspecting infidelity wears down your own heart before it affects the other person.

Whether you are eating, working, or before going to sleep, the same question keeps returning to your mind.

You react to every word they say. Just the sound of a phone notification makes your heart flutter with anxiety.

If this state continues, it is truly painful.

However, what you want to avoid most here is acting solely on the momentum of anxiety or anger.

Confronting them without evidence.
Forcing yourself to look at their phone.
Using GPS without permission.
Contacting the person who seems to be the affair partner.
Following them yourself.

All of these might seem like they would make you feel better for a moment.

But those actions might make the other person cautious, lead them to erase evidence, change their means of communication, or even change where they meet.

Furthermore, there is a risk that your own actions could lead to other troubles.

This time, I will write as clearly as possible about the reality you should know first when you suspect infidelity.

This content is for not only those who have decided to divorce, but also those who are still hesitant, those who just want to know the facts, and those who are worried about whether to continue the relationship.

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Infidelity investigations are not just for those getting a divorce

When people hear 'infidelity investigation,' many immediately think of divorce or claims for consolation money.

Of course, if you are considering divorce or claiming alimony, evidence becomes important.

However, that is not the only purpose of an infidelity investigation.

Are they really cheating?
Is it just my imagination?
Should we talk about it?
Should I stay silent and watch the situation for now?
Is there room to continue the relationship?
Is legal preparation necessary?

We confirm the facts so that these decisions are not made based on emotion alone.

When you suspect infidelity, your imagination inevitably runs wild.

Just because your partner comes home a little late, you think they might have been meeting someone. Just because they are looking at their smartphone, you think they might be messaging a lover.

But you cannot decide anything based on suspicion alone.

That is why it is safer to look at the facts before lashing out with emotions.

You don't have to hire a private investigator right away

Some people may feel that consulting a private investigator is a big deal.

“Won't the conversation proceed on the assumption that I'm already hiring them?”
“Won't I be pressured into an expensive contract?”
“Is there no turning back once I consult them?”

It is natural to feel anxious about such things.

However, a contract is not immediately decided at the consultation or estimate stage.

Rather, the first thing you should do is not to hire, but to compare.

Fees, investigation methods, and the quality of reports differ depending on the detective agency. If you only consult one company, it becomes difficult to judge whether the price is high or low, or if the investigation content is appropriate.

In particular, for infidelity investigations, the total cost changes depending on the number of investigators, investigation time, vehicle costs, late-night fees, report creation fees, and extension fees.

Since the way estimates are presented also differs from agency to agency, you won't know unless you compare multiple companies.

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*A contract is not decided just by consulting. First, please check the differences in cost and investigation content.

Things you must not do on the day you suspect infidelity

It is difficult to stay calm right after you suspect infidelity.

"I want to know the truth right now."
"I want to find some evidence."
"I don't want them to lie to me."

It is natural to feel that way.

However, if you make the wrong first move, subsequent investigations will become difficult. Here, I will explain the actions you should especially avoid.

Confronting them without evidence

The most common mistake is confronting the other person without having any evidence.

"You're cheating, aren't you?"
"Who were you meeting?"
"Show me your phone."
"You're lying, right?"

I understand the urge to say these things.

However, even if you confront them without evidence, there is no guarantee they will admit it honestly.

People who are actually cheating will deny it first.
And then, they will become cautious.

Deleting LINE messages.
Deleting photos.
Changing notification settings.
Asking the affair partner to get their stories straight.
Changing meeting places.
Hiding their phone even more.

Once this happens, the difficulty of obtaining evidence later increases.

Before confronting them, what you should keep is not "anger" but "records."

Suspicious days of the week, time spent out, return times, excuses, clothing, car mileage, and how they handle their phone. Please calmly keep track of such information.

Trying to force your way into their phone

There is a possibility that hints of infidelity remain on their phone.

LINE, call history, photos, social media, map history, payment history. You might think that if you look, you might find something.

However, the act of looking at someone's phone without permission is dangerous.

Even for spouses or lovers, it does not mean you are free to look at everything. Unlocking it without permission, logging into accounts without authorization, or forwarding messages. Such actions can lead to major conflicts later on.

Furthermore, if the fact that you tried to look at their phone is discovered, the other person will almost certainly become cautious.

Changing the lock code.
Deleting notifications.
Using a different app.
Preparing a separate device.
Frequently clearing history.

You might intend to find evidence, but you are likely to end up pushing the evidence further away.

Instead of forcing yourself to look at the contents of their smartphone, please record how the way they handle their smartphone has changed.

They used to leave it on the table, but now they suddenly take it with them to the bathroom or shower. Their expression changes the moment they see a notification. They don't let it leave their bedside even when they sleep.

These changes can also serve as material for later consultation.

Using GPS or recording devices on your own judgment

'If I attach a GPS, I'll know their location.'
'If I record it, it will become evidence.'
'If I plant something in the car, I can track their movements.'

When people suspect cheating, they often think of these methods.

However, GPS and recording devices are dangerous if handled incorrectly.

Attaching a GPS to someone else's belongings without permission. Installing equipment in a car registered to the other person. Recording a third party's conversation without consent. These actions, even if intended for gathering evidence, risk putting you in a worse position.

When you are anxious, the line between acceptable methods and dangerous ones tends to become blurred.

Please do not act just because you think 'it might become evidence.'

Contacting the suspected affair partner

Once people find out the person's name or social media, some want to contact them directly.

'You are involved with my husband, aren't you?'
'I know everything.'
'Please don't see them anymore.'

It is natural to want to say these things.

However, if you contact the suspected affair partner before you have evidence, there is a possibility that they will get their stories straight.

The news might reach your spouse or partner, and they might delete the evidence. If the interaction becomes emotional, you risk putting yourself at a disadvantage.

It is safer to treat information about the affair partner as material for investigation or consultation, rather than confronting them directly.

Signs that you should consider an infidelity investigation

You cannot judge if someone is cheating based on just one sign.

Coming home late alone does not mean they are cheating. Not showing you their smartphone does not mean they are having an affair. Changes in clothing, less conversation, more drinking parties—all of these could have other reasons.

However, if multiple changes are happening at the same time, it is better to keep a close eye on things.

Here, I will explain the signs that might warrant a consultation.

The way they handle their smartphone has suddenly changed

A common trigger for suspecting infidelity is a change in how someone handles their smartphone.

They used to leave it lying around in the living room, but now they carry it with them everywhere. They changed the settings so notifications don't appear. They place it face down. They don't let go of it even before going to sleep. They move to another room when the phone rings.

It is natural to feel anxious if these changes continue.

However, it is too early to conclude that they are cheating based solely on changes in their smartphone usage.

What is important is the perspective of looking at these alongside other changes.

They started hiding their smartphone.
Their arrival time home has become later.
Their reasons for going out have become vague.
They act differently only on specific days of the week.
The way they spend money has changed.

If multiple changes like these overlap, it is a stage where you might consider a consultation.

Reasons for going out have become vague

People who are cheating tend to have vague reasons for going out.

"I'm just going out for a bit"
"Drinking with people from work"
"Meeting a friend"
"I suddenly have plans"
"Work is running late"

Of course, there are days when they really do have plans.

However, they become evasive when you ask where they are going. They get angry when you ask who they are meeting. They change the subject when you ask what time they will be home. Their explanation is different when you ask about it later.

If these discrepancies increase, there is a possibility that it is not just a coincidence.

At this stage, do not confront them, but instead make a note of the dates, times, and explanations.

"Friday: Went out saying it was a company drinking party at 7 PM. Returned home after midnight. When asked who they went with, they were vague."

This level is sufficient.

It is easier to use later if you keep it short and stick to facts rather than writing emotional sentences.

Changes in spending habits

In cases of cheating, there are instances where changes in money appear.

They started carrying more cash.
There are unfamiliar payments on credit card statements.
They throw away receipts immediately.
Usage of convenience stores and restaurants has increased.
There are payments for parking fees or near hotel districts.

However, receipts and credit card statements alone do not necessarily constitute strong evidence.

They might say, 'I just went to a restaurant,' 'I just went shopping,' or 'I just went to that area for work.'

It is realistic to use changes in money as 'material to narrow down suspicious days.'

There are payments in the same area on the same day of the week every week. They made payments in a different location on a day they said they were working overtime. They withdrew cash only on specific days.

If you understand these trends, it becomes easier to narrow down the investigation dates when you consult a detective agency.

Reasons why the cost of infidelity investigations varies significantly

The cost of infidelity investigations varies quite a bit.

Even for the same 'infidelity investigation,' the price changes depending on the number of investigators, investigation time, presence of vehicles, late-night support, quality of the report, and the subject's behavioral patterns.

When looking at a quote, it is dangerous to judge solely by 'expensive' or 'cheap.' What you should look at is not the total amount, but the content.

Characteristics of people whose costs tend to increase

The costs for infidelity investigations tend to increase mainly in the following situations:

・The suspicious day of the week is unknown
・The destination changes every time
・There is a lot of travel by car
・They are highly cautious
・Investigations late at night or early in the morning are required
・Investigations over multiple days are required
・You want to confirm the home or workplace of the affair partner
・A report that can be used as legal documentation is required

For example, if a person goes out for the same reason every Thursday night, it is easy to narrow down the investigation date.

On the other hand, for people whose outing days are irregular, who travel by car often, and whose meeting places cannot be predicted, investigation time tends to increase.

In other words, to keep costs down, information before making a request is important.

Suspicious days.
Suspicious time slots.
Areas they visit often.
Means of transportation.
Past arrival times.
Changes in clothing or belongings.

Organizing this information makes it easier to reduce unnecessary investigation.

Choosing based solely on low price often leads to regret

In infidelity investigations, a cheap detective agency is not necessarily bad.

However, you need to be careful with extremely low quotes.

Even if it looks cheap at first, there are cases where extension fees, vehicle costs, report fees, late-night surcharges, etc., are added later. There is also a risk that the number of investigators is too small, leading to losing sight of the subject.

Furthermore, if the report is too simple, it might be difficult to use in discussions or when consulting with a lawyer.

When looking at fees, the total amount alone is not enough.

・Number of investigators
・Investigation time
・Extension fees
・Vehicle costs
・Report fees
・Cancellation fees
・Refunds for mid-contract termination
・Conditions for additional investigation

Please check up to this point.

It is difficult to judge with just one company

It is difficult to judge a detective agency's quote by looking at only one company.

Is that amount high or low?
Is the number of investigators appropriate?
Is the quality of the report sufficient?
To what extent will additional costs arise?
Are the contract terms easy to understand?

There are points that only become clear after comparing.

Especially if it is your first time with an infidelity investigation, it is safer to listen to explanations from multiple companies.

Even at the stage where you 'haven't decided whether to hire them yet,' you can check the general cost.

Points to check before choosing a detective agency

What is important in choosing a detective agency is not just flashy track records or low prices.

What you should look at instead is how easy their explanations are to understand.

When you ask about points you are worried about, do they answer specifically? Do they rush the contract? Do they not make additional fees ambiguous? Do they show you a sample of their reports?

This is where the difference lies.

Check for notifications and signs

To operate a detective business, you must notify the Public Safety Commission.

When consulting, please check the following points.

・Name of the Public Safety Commission where the notification was filed
・Address of the business office
・Presence of a sign
・Existence of the meeting location
・Content displayed on the official website

Just because there is a notification does not mean it is absolutely safe.

However, you should avoid businesses that evade questions about notifications or signs.

Check the contract and the explanation of important matters

For infidelity investigations, the contract details are very important.

Fees, additional costs, cancellation fees, mid-term termination, reports, and the scope of the investigation. If you sign a contract while these are still ambiguous, it will be easy for trouble to arise later.

Even if they tell you verbally that 'it's fine,' it will be difficult to verify if it is not written down.

Before signing a contract, please check the following contents.

・Explanation of important matters document
・Contract
・Price list
・Estimate
・Explanation of investigation details
・Cancellation fees
・Handling of mid-term termination
・Conditions under which additional costs occur
・Sample of the investigation report
・Management methods for personal information and materials

Read the contract, especially when you are in a hurry.

When the day your partner is meeting someone is near, you want to act quickly. However, if you sign in a rush, you will be at a disadvantage later.

Be careful of businesses that rush you into a contract

You want to solve the problem of infidelity right away.

Be careful of businesses that take advantage of that by stoking your anxiety and rushing you into a contract.

・'If you don't decide today, we can't get the evidence'
・'If you don't sign now, the price will go up'
・'If things stay like this, it will be too late for everything'
・'If you consult with another company, you will be found out'

Businesses that use such words to prevent you from making a calm comparison are dangerous.

Of course, there is a right timing for an investigation.

If the suspicious day is clear, there are situations where early consultation is necessary. However, that is no reason to skip the explanation of the contract terms.

Strong evidence versus weak evidence

There is strong evidence and weak evidence when it comes to cheating.

Even if you, as the reader, feel that 'this is definitely suspicious,' some materials are weak when it comes to discussions or claiming alimony.

If you act without knowing this, you are likely to end up in a situation where you 'thought you had collected evidence, but it is difficult to use.'

What tends to be strong evidence

What tends to be strong evidence are materials that make it easy to infer an extramarital affair.

・Photos showing entry and exit from a love hotel
・Activity records that allow for the inference of an overnight stay
・Records of multiple secret meetings with the same person
・Recordings or documents where the person admits to the relationship
・Messages indicating a specific relationship
・Investigation reports from a detective agency
・Photos or videos showing the date, time, and location

What is important is not isolated pieces of information, but what can be shown as a whole.

Even if just eating with someone of the opposite sex is weak, if they enter a hotel late at night, stay for a long time, and meet the same person on another day, the meaning changes.

A detective agency's report summarizes the date, time, location, the subject's movements, and photos in chronological order, making it easy to explain later.

What tends to be weak evidence

On the other hand, there are materials that tend to be weak on their own.

・LINE messages with someone of the opposite sex
・Messages with heart emojis
・Receipts from restaurants
・Location information around a hotel district
・Photos of the two of them together
・Social media interactions
・Call history
・Purchase history of gifts

Of course, they are not meaningless.

However, these alone may show a 'close relationship,' but they do not necessarily strongly indicate an extramarital affair.

Even if a LINE message says 'I want to see you,' it does not necessarily prove a physical relationship. Even if they are eating with someone of the opposite sex, it could be explained as work or a friendship.

It is realistic to use weak evidence as material to narrow down the investigation dates.

・'They seem likely to meet on this day'
・'They are likely to go out during this time of day'
・'There is a lot of contact with this person'

This kind of information is useful when consulting with a detective agency.

The difference between those who consult early and those who consult late, from the perspective of a former detective agency employee

In infidelity investigations, it is not as simple as saying that consulting early will always lead to good results.

However, your actions before consulting can significantly change the difficulty level.

A particularly common pattern is consulting after confronting the partner.

I couldn't hold back and asked them. Tried to look at their smartphone and got into an argument. Contacted the person who seemed to be the affair partner. The partner suddenly became cautious.

If you consult after this, the investigation is likely to become difficult.

After being confronted, the partner changes their behavior

Once confronted, the partner will no longer act as they usually do.

Deleting smartphone history. Making up detailed reasons for going out. Telling the affair partner to be cautious. Changing meeting locations. Changing communication methods.

When this happens, it becomes difficult to predict investigation dates.

If you cannot predict investigation dates, the investigation time increases. If the investigation time increases, costs are also likely to rise.

Conversely, those who kept records without saying anything yet are in a strong position.

Coming home late only on Fridays. Having receipts from the same coin parking lot. Having set days for taking a shower immediately after returning home. Being out for longer periods only on days they wear specific clothes.

If you have this kind of information, it becomes easier to narrow down investigation dates.

Consulting early is to keep options open, not to sign a contract

The point of consulting early is not to hire them immediately.

Rather, it is to keep your options open.

Can an investigation be conducted in the current situation? How much will it cost? Are there any situations that can be targeted for evidence? What actions should I avoid doing myself? Should I act now or continue keeping records for a while?

You consult to make these kinds of judgments.

If they haven't noticed yet, there is still a possibility that you can continue with your usual routine. It might also be easier to read the suspicious days of the week and narrow down the investigation dates.

Therefore, when you suspect cheating, it is safer to at least check the estimated costs and investigation details before lashing out in anger.

Preparation you can do yourself and the scope to leave to a detective

For infidelity investigations, it is not the case that you should just leave everything to the detective.

There are also preparations you can do yourself.

However, please distinguish between the scope of what you can do yourself and the scope that is better left to a detective.

What you can do yourself is recording daily life

What you can do yourself is the task of recording information that you can understand in your daily life.

・Changes in arrival time home
・Changes in outing plans
・Changes in clothing or belongings
・How they handle their smartphone
・Car mileage
・Receipts and credit card statements
・Notes on conversation content
・Holiday plans
・Frequency of business trips and overtime

This is not an action of forcibly pursuing the other person.

It is simply recording the scope that can be understood in daily life.

'May 10th, Friday, went out saying it was a company drinking party at 7:30 PM. Returned home at 11:50 PM. Smelled of perfume. Immediately deleted smartphone notifications.'

This much is sufficient.

Rather than writing emotionally, it is easier to use later if you keep it short and only record the facts.

The scope that is better left to a detective

Tailing, stakeouts, photography, tracking without losing the target, confirming contact with the affair partner, and photographing entry and exit from hotels are areas better left to a detective.

If an amateur tails someone, there is a high risk of being discovered by the other person.

If you follow by car, there is a danger of an accident. If you follow on foot, it is easy to look unnatural. Once you are discovered, subsequent investigations become difficult.

Detective agencies coordinate with multiple investigators to conduct the investigation according to the target's movements. Since they can also create reports, it becomes easier to explain later.

What you should do yourself is not unreasonable evidence gathering.

This is to gather material to narrow down the investigation dates.

Options to consider after a cheating investigation

A cheating investigation does not end with just obtaining evidence.

In fact, some people find their worries deepening after seeing the investigation results.

If the cheating is a fact, what do you want to do? Will the partner admit it? Will you divorce? Will you claim alimony? Will you continue the relationship?

If you proceed with the investigation without thinking about these things, you may not be able to handle the results.

Considering divorce

Some people choose divorce when cheating is a fact.

If you are considering divorce, do not decide based on emotions alone; preparation for daily life is also necessary.

・Housing
・Living expenses
・Child custody
・Child support
・Division of property
・Alimony
・Pension division
・Whether to consult a lawyer

Even if there is evidence of cheating, divorce conditions must be discussed separately.

Before rushing to leave the house, please collect the necessary documents. Bankbooks, pay slips, insurance, housing loans, household expenses, and child-related documents are also important.

Claiming alimony

If you are considering claiming alimony, the quality of the evidence is important.

If the other party admits it, the discussion is easier to proceed, but if they deny it, evidence will be required.

The feasibility and amount of an alimony claim vary depending on the marital relationship, the content of the evidence, the other party's awareness, and the duration of the affair.

After obtaining the investigation results, do not judge by yourself; please check with a lawyer.

If the evidence is weak, there is a possibility that they will say, "We were just meeting," "I was just giving advice," or "We just had a meal."

That is why documents that can infer a physical relationship carry more weight.

Aiming for relationship restoration

Even if infidelity is a fact, there are people who choose to repair the relationship.

For the sake of the children. For the sake of their livelihood. Because they still have feelings for their partner. Because they want to try again if it was only once.

The reasons are different for everyone.

However, if you choose to repair the relationship, simply forgiving them vaguely may lead to the same problem being repeated.

There are things that should be discussed.

・Whether to completely end the relationship with the affair partner
・Whether to cut off means of contact
・How to handle a recurrence
・Rules between the couple
・Management of money
・Transparency regarding smartphones and outing schedules
・Use of counseling
・Creation of a written pledge

Evidence is not just for cornering the other person.

It can also be used to avoid vague excuses and to discuss what to do in the future.

The meaning of using a bulk estimate

The meaning of using a bulk estimate for an infidelity investigation is that you can compare fees and investigation details.

Depending on the detective agency, their areas of expertise, service areas, fee structures, report creation methods, and consultation responses differ.

If you consult only one company, you will feel that the company's explanation is the market rate.

When you compare multiple companies, what you see changes.

Contents that can be understood through a bulk estimate

When you use a bulk estimate, the following differences become easier to see.

・Estimated investigation fees
・Number of investigators
・Investigation time
・Presence or absence of additional costs
・Investigation methods
・Contents of the report
・Service area
・Politeness of consultation response
・Transparency of estimates
・Attitude toward explanation before contract

The comparison of fees is particularly significant.

Even with the same consultation content, there are cases where differences appear in the estimates. Some companies set a larger number of investigators, while others propose investigations starting from a short duration.

There are companies that are expensive but provide detailed reports. There are also companies that look cheap but have many additional costs.

If you do not compare, it is difficult to notice those differences.

Points to note when using bulk estimate services

Bulk estimate services are convenient, but please do not decide based on price alone.

If you choose based solely on low cost, you may end up regretting the quality of the investigation or the content of the report. Conversely, just because it is expensive does not mean it is reliable.

What you should look at is the specificity of their explanation.

Do they answer your questions politely?
Do they avoid rushing you into a contract?
Are they clear about additional costs?
Do they explain the contents of the report?
Are they considerate about communication methods?

If you do not want your family to know, be sure to confirm the communication methods as well.

No phone calls.
Email only.
Calls only at specified times.
How they identify themselves when calling back.
No mail sent.
Consideration for caller ID names.

Whether or not they can accommodate these requests is also important.

It is okay to check estimates even if you are still undecided

'I haven't decided whether to hire them yet'
'I haven't decided if I'm getting a divorce'
'I don't know if it's worth consulting a private investigator'

Even at this stage, it is perfectly fine to just check the estimates.

In fact, precisely because you are still undecided, knowing the cost range can help you stay calm.

If you remain in the dark, your anxiety will only grow.

How much will it cost?
How many days are needed for the investigation?
Is it likely that evidence can be obtained in my situation?
Should I act now?
Should I continue keeping records for a while longer?

Just knowing these benchmarks will make it easier for you to make a decision.

Frequently Asked Questions

People considering an infidelity investigation are searching while carrying a lot of anxiety.

Costs, evidence, legality, the risk of being found out by the partner, the impact on the family, and the point of it if you don't intend to divorce. There must be many points of concern.

Here, we will explain the questions that are commonly asked before a consultation.

Will the partner find out about the infidelity investigation?

It cannot be guaranteed that you will never be found out.

However, an experienced detective agency will adjust the number of investigators and the distance maintained based on the subject's level of alertness and their means of transportation.

It is not just the detective agency that increases the risk of being found out.

If the client has already confronted the person, tried to look at their smartphone without permission, or attempted to tail them personally, the subject is already on guard.

It is precisely before consulting a detective that you should behave as usual.

How much does a cheating investigation cost?

Costs vary depending on the investigation time, number of investigators, number of days, the subject's behavior, whether a vehicle is used, and the content of the report.

Some investigations can be completed in a short time, while others require multiple days.

Those who have narrowed down the suspicious days tend to be able to keep costs down.

Do not judge based on price alone; be sure to check the total amount, additional costs, number of investigators, report details, and cancellation fees.

Can LINE or smartphone history serve as evidence?

LINE and smartphone history can serve as material indicating suspicion of cheating.

However, they do not necessarily constitute strong evidence on their own.

Even if there are intimate exchanges, call logs, photos, or location data, it may be weak if the content does not allow for the inference of a physical relationship.

It is more realistic to think of smartphone history as material for narrowing down investigation dates and the other party involved.

Is it okay to consult even if I don't intend to get a divorce?

Yes, it is fine to consult.

Cheating investigations are not just for those who have decided to divorce.

People who want to know the truth.
People who do not want to blame their partner based on assumptions.
People who want material for discussion.
People who are considering repairing the relationship.

It is meaningful for these people as well.

However, if you are not planning to divorce, how you use the evidence is important.

Whether you use it to corner the other person or as a basis for discussion will change the future of your relationship.

Will the fact that you consulted with family or others be discovered?

The response varies depending on who you consult.

If you do not want your family to know, please specify your preferred contact method in advance.

・No phone calls
・Email only
・Calls only at specified times
・How to identify themselves when calling back
・No mail sent
・Consideration for notification names
・Do not open emails on shared devices

In particular, those who use computers or tablets shared with family need to be careful.

It is possible to be found out through search history, email notifications, or browser auto-fill.

Before consulting, check your own communication environment.

Summary

When you suspect cheating, the hardest part is the 'time of not knowing'.

You want to believe them. But the feeling that something is wrong won't go away. You want to confront them. But you don't want to break things. You want to know. But you're afraid to find out.

It is truly difficult to act calmly while feeling that way.

However, if you act on your emotions, the other person will be on guard. There is also a possibility that evidence will be deleted. Your actions could also lead to other troubles.

Therefore, first of all, do not confront them. Do not force yourself to look at their smartphone. Do not use GPS or follow them on your own judgment. Do not contact the person you suspect is the affair partner.

The first thing you should do is keep a record of daily life.

Suspicious dates and times. Reasons for going out. Return times. How they handle their smartphone. How they spend money. Car mileage. Changes in clothing or belongings.

Just keeping this information will make it easier to consult with someone later.

And if you are going to consult with a detective agency, do not make a decision based on just one company.

You should compare fees, investigation methods, reports, additional costs, cancellation fees, and contract documents.

With a quote from only one company, you cannot tell if it is expensive or cheap. By comparing multiple companies, you can see not only the difference in fees but also the thoroughness of their explanations and differences in contract terms.

An infidelity investigation is not just an action to corner the other person.

To stop your own anxiety.
To avoid accusing the other person based on assumptions.
To prepare for divorce or alimony claims.
To have a discussion about repairing the relationship.
To protect your future life.

For that purpose, please first gather the facts calmly.

It is okay even if you have not decided whether to hire them yet.
First, try comparing the estimated costs anonymously and check what kind of investigation is necessary for your situation.

※A consultation does not mean you are committed to a contract. First, check the cost estimates and investigation details, and choose only the partner you are satisfied with.