Romeo and Juliet [Psychology / Radical Acceptance]

Romeo and Juliet is perhaps one of the most famous works by Shakespeare. The remake film starring Leonardo DiCaprio is still fresh in my memory, and I was moved by what a sad yet beautiful story it was. He was the quintessential prince back then.

Now, when you hear "Romeo and Juliet," doesn't it remind you of something?

Yes!!

It's Yuzuru Hanyu's free skate program from the Sochi Olympics!!

He captivated us again at this year's Beijing Olympics, and Yuzuru Hanyu truly possesses one of the most exquisite beauties in the world of men's figure skating. Where on earth does his beauty and strength come from? I think about such things while looking through the Yuzuru Hanyu photo book I gave my wife for Valentine's Day.

I happened to come across an article by Dr. Mai Uchida, a child psychiatrist at Harvard Medical School. It offers an interesting perspective on Yuzuru Hanyu.

She says his radical acceptance is wonderful.

Radical Acceptance is a psychological term that refers to accepting things that are outside of your control without evaluating them (as good or bad) and moving forward. It means acknowledging things the moment they happen, and then finding what you can do about them and working on it. This is radical acceptance, but it is not as easy as it sounds.

Spilled water cannot be gathered back into the basin. What has happened cannot be changed. It is human nature to want to put it back in the basin, but entropy increases. As long as we live normally, time does not flow backward, so radical acceptance is a truly rational approach.

We want to regret, and we want to reflect. However, if you are trapped in the past, you could never skate the rest of your program perfectly after your foot gets caught in a rut during a jump in the short program, turning a quad salchow into a single. He accepted the facts in an instant, shifted his mindset, and accomplished the best he could from that point on. Attempting a quad axel in the subsequent free program is impossible for the mental strength of an ordinary person. Furthermore, the fact that it was judged as a "quad axel" even while falling can be called a legend in the world of men's figure skating.

Looking back, what about us? Even if it is not as quick an "acceptance" as Yuzuru Hanyu's, how quickly can we "accept" what has happened? I believe this is an extremely important element for moving life forward. The point is to suspend judgment—whether it is good or bad—and simply accept it as a fact. It means assessing the current situation and thinking about what to do from here on. "What to do" is more important than "what will happen." is important.

Now, as for me, I have to be a speaker at a certain lecture, but the materials are not finished yet. This is no time to be writing on Note.

But, but you know.

This is where "radical acceptance" comes in.

Let's shift our mindset.
What's written is written. Let's finish this up and publish it as is. Then I will return to making the materials for the lecture.

Welcome to the world of radical acceptance.

Thank you very much for staying with my humble writing until the end. I hope that you will be freed from the shackles of the past and begin to walk toward the future, starting now.

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