Communication Skills for Connecting Hearts ⑥♪

Hello (^ ^)

“It’s hard to talk to people...”

There may be many shy people who feel that way.

You have the desire to get along with others.But, I just can’t bring myself to talk to them... (> <)

What should you do in such a situation?

There are many things you can do, so let me talk about them.

It’s hard to talk to people. When that happens, what people often do is...

Try hard to "become able to talk to people!"

That is one way to go. If you can work hard and become able to talk to people, there is nothing more joyful than that.

However,if it is difficult, there is another way.

That is...

"Become someone who gets talked to by others"

It’s a reverse way of thinking lol

If you can’t talk to others yourself, become someone who gets talked to.
Or, create a situation where you are likely to be talked to.

I didn’t consciously try to become that way, but when I suddenly looked back, I realized I had unconsciously been heading in that direction. So, I think this method is effective as one strategy.

So, how can you become someone who gets talked to by others?

Regarding that, I think you should try anything you can, but if I were to give examples,

Create an approachable atmosphere.
Smile and nod at people who are talking.
Bring things that people around you might be happy to see.
Wear things with good taste, and so on.

Some of you might be wondering "why?" about the third and fourth points, but they lead to being thanked, complimented, or asked questions about them, which makes it easier for people to talk to you.

I get asked for directions very often. I have a poor sense of direction, so it’s frustrating that I can’t answer even when asked...But there is no doubt that I have become someone who is easy to talk to lol

Something like this happened recently.

They bake bread in the university cafeteria, and the curry bread is really delicious, so I buy it often. When I was paying,the lady at the register complimented the handle of my bag, saying, "This is really lovely."

I go to work at the university with a large white canvas bag (like a vegetable bag), but since it’s white, I thought the handles would get dirty quickly, soI bought brown leather handles myself and attached them.

"This is really lovely."
"Oh, this? I attached it myself. This part gets dirty the easiest, so I bought it myself."
"Oh, you bought it yourself? Did you make it yourself?"
"No, no, they sell them. On Amazon."
"Oh, I see. That’s really cute, the bag is cute too."

It turned into a conversation like that.

When you become someone who is easy to talk to,the amount of conversation increases significantly.And you also feel happy. I really enjoy and love thesecasual, small, everyday conversations.

I believe that such casual, warm conversations take us to a happy world, and I wrote this becauseI hope the number of people who can have such happy conversations increases.

Ifit is hard to talk to people, become someone who is easy to talk to. Please, give it a try♪

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