Can stress tolerance be trained?

The other day, while I was looking at news and notes on my smartphone...

“What?! You look at that kind of stuff too! 😮
Piccoma and Amazon Prime are all I thought you watched lol”

…is what I was told.

No, well… I do look at them!
It's true that my usage time for Piccoma and Amazon Prime makes up over 50% of the total though lol

“Don't you write notes or anything yourself?”

Uh… that is…
As I was struggling for words…

“It feels like you could train your mental strength with articles! 😆”

Huh?! 🤧 Why?!!

There seem to be people who think that stress tolerance and mental toughness can be
“trained” but…

Are you an idiot? (・∀・;)

In the first place, it's more like a bias in a person's constitution or nature…

What's the point of training something like that?!

Man, how much trouble are you causing?! (・∀・;)

Stress tolerance and mental strength...
just knowing what you're capable ofis enough!
(Wait, is that even a real term?! lol Huh? lol)

If you know what kind of stress you're weak against,
you can deal with it, avoid it, or prepare for it before you encounter it!
...Isn't that good enough?!
You just have to find ways to deal with things through trial and error while understanding your own characteristics!

☝To this person... do I have an image like this?!
(That's not me at all! And the emoticon lol)

It feels like...
I'm wearing a much more intense mask than I had anticipated?😅

But, stress tolerance?
You don't necessarily need more than what's required...
Isn't it fine to be a sensitive person?

I don't have an opinion with as much heat as what I wrote above, but...
if you understand yourself,
I feel like you can at least mitigate it a little bit.

When you feel stress:

1. No options (uncontrollable)

A sense of helplessness that there is "no escape" or "nothing you can do".

2. Having to choose (trade-off)

A conflict that "to choose something, you have to give up something else".

I think it's mainly these two things, but...

Which one are you weaker against? Or both?
Isn't it possible to understand that to some extent?
If you understand it, wouldn't you see the possibility of dealing with it?

For example...

If you are weak against "1. Uncontrollable" then,
you could prepare in advance or have options to reduce the "unexpected"...
If something "unexpected" happens, you could try to clearly distinguish between the parts you can't control and the parts you can... right?

If you are weak against "2. Trade-offs", then perhaps you should anticipate them and take stock of your own "values" and "priorities".
Instead of looking at options in parallel, maybe try viewing them from a different axis, such as "Which is best for me now and in the future? (Time axis)".

Still, it's true... it's tough if you're sensitive when you're backed into a corner.
Even if you aren't sensitive, I think anyone would be overwhelmed if faced with something heavy like the "Trolley Problem".

So, you see...

For an ordinary person like me, if I encounter the "Trolley Problem," it's game over lol

All I can do is do my best to "avoid encountering critical situations in the first place."😅

I think that's what "self-analysis/self-understanding" and "imagination" are for.
Furthermore, I believe your resilience when under stress changes because of that, too.

▼ Conclusion

It reminds me of a scene from a laid-back(?) drama...

But, however...

In reality, life doesn't change at the crossroads where you can choose your options...

In many cases, isn't the future largely swayed by "unconscious actions where you don't notice the options" or "conscious preparation toward those options"?

It's too late by the time you notice... was it a work that made you realize that? I think so lol

Well, thank you for joining me again today.
I hope this question has served as an entrance to a new "question" for you.

Cited work:

Suteki na Sen TAXI
Warmly and comically questions what choices in life are.
Link to article
Connects the drama's content to the idea that life doesn't change at the crossroads where you can choose your options.

Side note:

Training yourself to be "invincible to stress" is impossible and honestly crazy lol.
However, I think you can polish your "understanding of and ways to deal with stress."
If you call that "training," then sure, maybe you can train it?

| What are the components of true "stress tolerance"?

1. Self-efficacy
The feeling that "I can manage this" or "I can control the situation."
Bandura's theory is famous. People with higher self-efficacy tend to be able to respond calmly even in stressful situations.

2. Emotional regulation
The ability to handle emotions like anger, anxiety, and sadness without exploding or suppressing them, but ratherhandling them appropriately. Mindfulness and breathing techniques are also related to this skill. It serves as a foundation for not becoming excessively shaken by stress.

3. Cognitive flexibility
The ability to perceive things not just from one direction, butfrom multiple perspectives. People who can imagine other options, thinking "but I could also look at it this way" instead of being swallowed by the automatic thought that "this is the worst," are resilient to stress.

4. Ability to utilize social support
The ability toask others for helpwhen in trouble, and the ability to utilize surrounding support resources. People who balance independence and dependence well tend to have higher resilience to stress.

5. Ability to find meaning
The ability tofind meaning in painful experiences or events and extract lessons or value from them. People who think "this failure will surely lead to something" are less likely to be broken by stress.

6. Physical strength and lifestyle habits
Sleep, diet, exercise, etc.—physical healthis the "foundation" of stress tolerance. If the prefrontal cortex of the brain is tired, emotional control becomes difficult, so it is very true that "people strong against stress" = "people who sleep properly."

...No, wait,"stress tolerance ≈ flexibility", that's necessary lol 😅
Just off the top of my head, there are this many...
It seems to include various other meanings and elements.

| How do sensitive people survive?

I think it's...
"Accurately grasping your own characteristics and using 'design skills' to organize your environment."

Sensitivity isn't a "weakness," but asensitive sensor?
But if the environment is too harsh, that sensorbreaks from the noise.

Why is the sensor for the outside world so sensitized?
Also, why are there more people like that now?
Regarding this, I think it might be caused by"faith in the correct answer (the belief in a single solution)", or a decrease in training opportunities for"3. Cognitive flexibility"and"5. Ability to find meaning"in stress tolerance?

However, I'm not an expert, so it might be better to read and study articles by people who write a lot about HSP.