Books to Read When You Feel Like You're Starting to Hate People

The book I'm introducing today is
Situations Matter: Understanding How Context Transforms Your World. Unfortunately, it seems there is no Japanese version.

Here is the Amazon link, just in case:

It was published in 2011, and since I read it a few years ago, this is from memory, but it has stayed with me ever since. For example, when I feel frustrated by being judged, when I get angry at someone else's behavior, when I lose hope in an unreasonable society, or when my spouse and I have a disagreement and end up fighting (lol),

Ah. That's right.
Situations matter
—that's what I remember.

Well, to put it simply, it's an expanded version of 'hate the sin, not the sinner.' Professor Sam Sommers, who teaches social psychology at Tufts University, explains with concrete examples that not only 'sins' but our daily actions and judgments are also largely shaped by situations rather than individual personality.

He is a professor who researches the psychological influences within the U.S. judicial and court systems.

What was good about this book is that it shows that no matter how moral or intelligent a person is, if they are in a hurry, trying to fit in, or have unconscious biases from the environment they were raised in, they can't just make the best decision instantly. Humans are just like that,

it makes you give up and accept that being a flawed human is inevitable.

And, everyone has lived through different situations and happened to arrive at those thoughts and actions in that specific environment at that specific moment. For that person, that was the information they had to judge by. If I were in the same situation as them, I might have done the same thing.

Furthermore, I'm probably incomprehensible to others as well.

In other words, that annoying person is not much different from me.

If that's the case, is there any point in us fighting?
Wouldn't it be more rational to focus on respecting each other, listening to one another, bridging misunderstandings, and negotiating to find a middle ground where we can both make concessions?

As you keep reading, you start to feel like it doesn't really matter anymore.

Wait!

Could it be that this professor is manipulating my behavior with this book! Lol