Sometimes, Try Living with the Flow of 'Just Because'

Before I knew it, I had started seeking 'meaning' in even the smallest daily choices.


Isn't this expense a waste?

Is this way of spending time a gain or a loss?

Shouldn't I avoid things that are tiring and choose the easier path?


It's not just work; life itself has become a 'series of judgments'.


Saving, budgeting, efficiency.


I thought I was thinking things through properly, and I believed that was the right way to be.


I suppose that is a sense I acquired precisely because I have accumulated experience.

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What happens in a life spent avoiding 'loss'

For example, in situations like these.


I stop myself from going into a cafe I was actually curious about.
Because I think, 'It's a waste to spend this much on coffee.'


I stop myself from going somewhere a little further away.
Because I think, 'It costs money and time to travel, and I won't be in trouble if I don't go.'


I pass on buying something I wanted.
Because I tell myself, 'Saving money is more important.'


None of these are wrong.
In fact, they are sensible and responsible choices.


But, in the accumulation of those choices, something is gradually being worn away.


'I'm a little curious.'
'I kind of want to go there.'
'I don't have a reason, but I want it.'


Those vague, small impulses.

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Even though I should be gaining, why do I feel unfulfilled?

My money hasn't decreased, and I haven't wasted anything.


I'm using my time efficiently, too.

And yet, for some reason, a feeling of unfulfillment sometimes remains.


That is surely because, in exchange for 'not suffering a loss,' I am letting go of 'something I might have gained.'
A chance encounter.


A small moment of wonder.

Unexpected joy.

Those things are usually found in 'irrational choices'.


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To avoid thinking I know it all

The more experience I gain, the more I can judge things in advance.

'I don't need to go to this.'
'I don't need to buy this.'

It is certainly true that I am often right.


But if those judgments increase too much, I end up treating things I haven't even seen yet as 'things I already know.'
In reality, I won't know until I try.


That state might be the biggest waste of all.


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A little margin to choose 'loss'

This isn't about wasting everything.


In fact, the basics are to save firmly and store properly.

Because of that, I can live with peace of mind.


However, just a little bit within that.


Leave a 'margin that is okay to spend' in advance.

For example, just a few times a month, try entering a shop you were curious about.

Once in a while, allow yourself a purchase that doesn't have a clear reason.


That is not an expense outside of the plan, but 'a way of spending to keep my senses sharp.'
If I continue to judge everything by meaning and efficiency, even if my money doesn't decrease, the reality of my daily life will gradually fade.


That is precisely why I dare to create a margin within my savings.
Eliminating waste and protecting richness are not the same thing.


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Summary

Avoiding loss is important for protecting one's life.


But if you lean only on that, your days will gradually become a little flavorless.


What's important is balance.


While properly protecting things, break the mold just a little.

While thinking things through, occasionally act on instinct.


Just by having that margin, the scenery you see in the same daily life will surely change.