The more you have a sense of 'we're in this together,' the easier life becomes.

Hello, this is Saki.

Today, I'd like to talk about how
the more you have a sense of 'we're in this together,'
the much easier life becomes.

On Marine Day, the teacher who was in charge of my daughter's class in her final year of preschool,
along with a friend and her parent,
came to visit our home.

The teacher had resigned at the same time my daughter graduated,
and since we had no idea where she had gone,

I was looking forward to meeting her even more than my daughter was,
thinking, 'I'm going to hear so many stories!'

At just 24 years old, she mentioned she was moving in with her boyfriend of three years,
and had found a new job at a nursery school near her new home.

However, I heard that the direct reason for her job change
was the deterioration of relationships in her workplace.

While struggling every day to help a child who has only been alive for three or four years
and is crying after being torn away from their mom
adjust to group life,
you are also expected to deal with demanding parents,

and on top of that, if the workplace atmosphere becomes tense,
well, it's no wonder you'd think about changing jobs...
Furthermore,

the mom friend who ran around doing this and that
for the teachers and children turned out to be
the biggest troublemaker of all.

Wait, that mom was the one who filed those complaints
to the kindergarten through the city office?

Wait, those parents and children who seemed so close
are now on such terrible terms?

Unexpected facts that I knew nothing about
kept coming out one after another.

(Yeah, I'm bad at socializing,
and this is the result of my own obliviousness...)
I felt a bit down for a moment, but

while knowing these things might sometimes work to your advantage,
I realized that gathering this kind of information
is definitely not a priority for me.

I believe that by not taking in more information than necessary and simply
focusing on getting myself in order,
I am training myself to view things
from a flat perspective and with a lighter heart.

After listening to the stories from the teacher and my mom friends this time,
I simply thought that if I could look more at the good sides of people,
my relationships would go much more smoothly.

Even if you interpret something negatively for a moment,
by taking a breath and thinking, 'Is there another way to look at this?',
new things can come into view.

Besides,
I don't think it's ever just the other person's fault.
Since I can be insensitive, I might have made them feel bad about something, too.

How I treat others changes depending on my own mood at the time,
and how others perceive me
also changes depending on their own mood.

People are, by nature, creatures swayed by their emotions.
That is precisely why I hope to communicate with those around me
with a sense of ease in my heart.
That is how I want to live, with a spirit of 'we're in this together.'

If you are struggling with human relationships,
I hope that the importance of centering yourself and broadening your perspective
is conveyed even a little bit
to you. ^^

I am still a work in progress myself, but...
by centering myself,
I will continue to hone the skill of not being swayed by those around me!

Saki

P.S.
You can learn the method of "centering your way of being"
that I practice in my daily life
so that my mother and family can live peacefully.
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