Trust Coaching School Basic Course Record
I attended a coaching session that lasted over 4 hours, twice. I would like to put into words the insights I gained from this first Basic session while they are still fresh in my mind.
Reflections on the 'Quality' of Coaching
Although it was a long 4-hour session, I felt it was great that I could talk about myself thoroughly without the session ending just as I was getting into the flow, which often happens in typical 1-hour or 2-hour sessions.
I had known for a long time that 48% of Fortune 500 executives have coaches, but what struck me was the fact that some executives who have already achieved significant results intentionally choose younger coaches. While the coach's own skills are certainly important, I realized once again that there is meaning in the very act of having someone bring in a perspective different from one's own.
It is said that people ask themselves questions about 60,000 times a day. By changing the 'quality of the questions we ask ourselves,' our actions themselves change. This was another realization that really resonated with me this time.
Talking about 'Family' for the first time
I have received coaching many times before, but this was the first time that the topic of family came up so much. It might have been a theme I had been focusing on recently, but my honest feeling is that I wish I could have talked about this sooner.
I had been under the impression that 'it might be too late to change anything,' but I was made to think again through the coach's simple and gentle words: 'Are you actually communicating the things you find unpleasant?' As someone who provides coaching, this session also made me realize the weight of the theme of family.
Changes in the definition of 'Trust'
The theme of 'trust in oneself' was also heavily addressed. Looking back, I realized that my own definition of 'trust' has changed little by little depending on the people I have been involved with. And I also understood once again that in order to trust others, one must first be able to trust oneself.
Taking stock of what I want to do and the true nature of ambiguity
I periodically take stock of 'what I really want to do' by setting aside my ideals, career, and current environment, but there were changes this time as well, and I felt that there are still parts where I am restricting my own actions.
Putting anxiety into words and defining those words in my own way also became a major realization. It is true that 'ambiguity leads directly to anxiety,' so this time, I defined them in my own words as follows.
What is life: To enjoy, to find oneself, to take on challenges, and to create memories with loved ones
What is success: A life where I can live without hardship with important friends and family, say 'I'm glad I was me, it was fun,' and say that I was able to try everything I wanted to do
What is money: A tool to fulfill dreams and things I want to do
What is an ideal partnership: A relationship where there is mutual respect, where we can laugh together, and where we can pursue our own 'likes.' However, I understood again that 'wanting to pursue what I like' is one of my own characteristics, and it is also important not to demand that too much from the other person
I also realized that leaving things unfinished is unconsciously becoming a burden on my heart, and this was an opportunity to organize those things.
Goal setting with gravitational pull
At the end of the first session, I set specific goals following the "Attractive Goal Setting" format.
By March 31, 2027,
Conduct yoga in a park at least once
Reach a level where I can speak English to a certain extent
As a coach, talk to one new person every month
Type-based Communication Diagnosis
Another interesting part was the "Type-based Communication Analysis Diagnosis." It involves classifying yourself and the people around you with whom you want to improve your relationship into four types. I have taken many such tests before, but it was interesting to be able to articulate my own characteristics and those of the people around me more deeply, as there were parts that overlapped with what I had been feeling recently.
I will summarize what I learned in the second session another time!