[April 17] Thorns of Words

When I went shopping at the drugstore,
I couldn't help but overhear someone else's conversation.

An elderly woman and someone who looked like her daughter
were talking in the aisle for nursing care rehabilitation pants.

The grandmother was saying:

・That she wants to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night but doesn't make it in time.
・That it takes her time to get up while sleeping.
・That she wants to buy diapers but is unsure which ones to choose.

In any case, she was complaining that her nighttime bathroom situation was not going well.

The family member listening to that story said one thing.

“You should try harder than that.”

I instinctively thought, 'You've got to be kidding, right???' and
it almost came out of my mouth, but
I barely managed not to say it out loud.

The grandmother looked truly sad.

I wanted to listen to her. She might not have actually wanted to talk about bathroom issues. She might have spoken up with courage...

I think being able to state one's worries in an orderly fashion
is a wonderful thing.

She has the ability and the courage to put it into words
and convey, 'I am having trouble with this.'

When people have dementia, they often don't know what they are struggling with, so
it is often only after something happens that it is noticed.

And besides.

Whether they are young or old, when someone is in trouble,
"It's just that much" is a scary phrase.
That is what I think.

Have I become unable to do even that much?

Compared to others, am I someone who cannot even do that much?

They might end up blaming themselves.
If it were me, my heart would be gouged out.
I might become cynical and decide never to consult anyone ever again.

In the case of the grandmother this time,

It is a vivid reminder that she has grown old.

And there is the sadness of being rejected after finally opening up about her worries.

Growing old means an increase in the things one cannot do.
Instead of trying to solve that all by oneself, it would be better to involve those around you and distribute the burden as much as possible,
as that would make things easier for both the person themselves and their family...

There are times when you get frustrated and lash out at others.
There are times when you get fed up with hearing the same story over and over. Accepting everything is troublesome and sometimes impossible.

"Thorns of words"

I wonder if I have been stabbing others with them without even realizing it.

It was an event that really made me think.

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