The Pain of Visualizing Likes❣️

I believe that humans, from infancy to adulthood and even into old age, always have a “desire to be praised” within them.

Some people dislike the phrase "normal," but in reality, when it comes to the desire for approval, everyone surely wants it, and I feel that wanting to obtain it is healthy.

Reading this book, I faced my own feelings once again.

“Writing Habits: The Most Important Writing Skills to Change Yourself and Your Life” Yuki Ishikawa #Booklog

Sometimes, I feel that it would be better if the [Like] button didn't exist.

It is painful to suffer from low engagement, and it makes me realize that a desire to be evaluated by others or to live by others' standards inevitably arises.

I think this desire for approval becomes stronger among acquaintances than anyone else, and that feeling intensifies💡

The three media where I mainly write down my own thoughts and actions are as follows. (Excluding: writing for side jobs on educational sites or volunteer activities)

🌿facebook 🌿note 🌿Booklog

Among these, Facebook is the one where I worry most about reactions.

Because of that, for the others—namely Ameblo, Booklog, and this note—I have chosen not to connect with anyone.

Regarding Ameblo, in the past, I sought connections with people in the same environment, and since it is the place where I have been writing the longest, there are people who are like vague acquaintances, even though my update frequency is low, at once every 2-3 months.

The truth is that the place with the lowest frequency has the most reactions.

I suspect that on Facebook and note, readers think, this person will write on their own anyway✍️, even if they don't react. In a sense, it is the reader's indulgence, and of course, there is no obligation to react.

From these things, it follows that if you want reactions, low-frequency updates are best!!, but ultimately, the initiative for frequency and viewing settings lies with the sender/writer.

Perhaps the likes on the low-frequency Ameblo strongly imply “Please write again!!”, and since it is low-frequency and I have few acquaintances, I feel that the readers are being more considerate of me.

As a writer, as long as a “Like” button exists, I have a desire to have it pressed if possible, so while I know in my head that it doesn't matter, I in order to become a non-fiction writer as a side job while continuing to be a company employee, I calmly just let myself say what I want to say, and I tell myself as well as try hard to convince myself of it.

Well, that is my honest feeling.

What do you all think about reactions and the existence of Likes?

My goal is to hone my writing skills in order to write as a non-fiction writer in parallel with my job as a company employee. The experience of seeing the top floors of two major corporations and raising three children—there shouldn't be many people who

go back and forth between two 180-degree different worlds every day at the same time. I will become a writer who makes the most of my

rarity and human observation skills❕

#SeeYouLater💫