[Realization] What I learned from The Courage to Be Disliked
Recently, I looked into something that had been on my mind.
The book "The Courage to Be Disliked"—that's the one.
I was curious about it, but I thought it looked like a lot to read...
I used a YouTube video summarization site I've been using lately called manabi to study it in my own way.
The part that left the biggest impression on me was the idea that
"the past does not determine who you are now."
Up until now, I had always thought that my lack of confidence was because of my past, or that it was just my personality and I couldn't help it, but maybe that was just me making excuses to avoid changing who I am right now.
There was also another point:
"you don't have to be afraid of being disliked."
I used to worry so much about what others thought of me, holding back what I wanted to say or conforming too much to other people's opinions (maybe that's a common thing).
I realized that even though it's my own life, I wasn't the one choosing how to live it.
Just knowing about this way of thinking made me feel a little lighter, so I decided to summarize it.
I think it's important to take the time to look at things like this and reflect.
Starting tomorrow,
"What I want to do" rather than "what others think of me"
I'm going to try to be a little more conscious of this.
[A quick postscript...]
After I wrote this article,
"How do you come across these kinds of ideas?"
I've been asked that, so here's a little bit about it.
Lately, rather than just watching YouTube videos passively, I've been using services that summarize the key points so I can take in information more efficiently.
Honestly, I used to just watch things idly and finish, but
I feel like I've started taking the time to properly understand the content
and think about it for myself a bit more.
The content I wrote this time is also one of the ways of thinking I encountered during that process.
If there is anyone out there who feels the same way,
"I want to change something, but I don't know where to start"
then this way of learning might be a viable option for you as well.
For what it's worth, I'll leave what I'm using here👇
If you're interested, please feel free to take a look at the site😊