Why the more you think you 'have to' do something, the more you get stuck

You intend to do something, but you don't feel like it.
You are concerned about it, but you keep putting it off.
Even though you decided to do it, your actions come to a halt.

At times like that, a sense of unease wells up in your heart.

Don't you find yourself blaming yourself for it?

But you are not being lazy,
nor is your willpower weak.

You don't need to blame yourself.
There is a reason for it.

That hazy, uneasy feeling
is not just caused by your mood or overthinking,
but might be a small sign that your heart is picking up on.

This time, let's unravel the true nature of this 'unease'.

▶ Unease is
'your true feelings that haven't been put into words yet'

It is said that people first receive a sense of discomfort as a 'feeling',
and then organize it into words later.

However, if you brush it off along the way by thinking,
'Maybe it's just my imagination,' 'Maybe I'm overthinking it,'
or 'Maybe I'm just weak,'
the emotion remains as 'unease' without ever being put into words.

The unease
was actually 'the gateway to your true feelings that haven't been put into words yet'.

▶ Unease is
a notification of a 'gap' with your true feelings

・I have to do it
・I have to move forward
・I have to change

When you feel this way but cannot take action,

・Actually, I'm not prepared enough yet
・Actually, a different method would be better
・Actually, I'm interested in a different choice

Sometimes such small gaps are occurring.

Unease is a sign that you are noticing a 'gap between your true feelings and reality'.

▶ Is the feeling of unease
hiding the 'reason you are stopped'?

When you cannot move,
it is often not just because
・you are afraid
・you lack confidence.

For example,
・your criteria for judgment are not yet clear
・you are worried about someone else's expectations
・the image of failure is too large
・you cannot imagine things going well
・you are unsure if it is really what you want to do

Even in this state of being in the middle of sorting things out, you will come to a standstill.

I am the same way myself, but
when the desire to 'proceed only after being convinced' is strong,
it becomes especially easy for movement to stop,
and I have suffered because of it.

▶ Questions I want you to try
　when you feel uneasy

When you want to move toward your dreams and goals,
but you are carrying around a feeling of unease.

I have prepared a few 'questions,' so
please stop for a moment and think about them.

▶ Unease is
not 'proof that you cannot move forward'
but 'proof that you are thinking'

The reason you feel uneasy is
because you are trying to face it properly.

So, it is okay if you do not have immediate answers to the questions above.

Unease is often
・a reason to stop
・a hint to choose again
・in the middle of preparing to move forward.

What is important is not to blame yourself.

Stop for just a moment
and try asking yourself gently,
'What is it that is holding me back?'

Even if you do not get an answer right away,
just trying to notice it will bring you much closer to yourself.

See you again.

Thank you for reading this article to the end as well.
Thank you.

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