When an ASD parent and child play, there is no conversation, but that is fine

Thank you for visiting. I am a science-major mom raising a 2-year-9-month-old son who only speaks a little, and a 7-month-old daughter.

Today, I left my daughter with my husband and went on a date with my son for the first time since she was born. Please let me write about my realizations from that time.

Playing with blocks is silent

Since it was raining, our destination was a toy store. There, my son found and became absorbed in blocks made from rice called Dia Blocks.

I was drawn in and worked silently as well.

And then, I realized!

Yes, my 2-year-old son still doesn't talk, so while I think, I have to talk to him a lot!,

perhaps because I also have ASD tendencies, when playing with blocks, we are usually both so absorbed in making our creations that we end up silent.

What should I have said?

So, I thought about it. What kind of things could I say?

I simulated it, thinking it might be something like this.

And then I thought, if someone did this to me while I was playing with blocks, it would be really annoying.

If I were the child...

If I were the child, what kind of adult would I want to play with when playing with blocks? When I thought about it,

These are the four things.

Thinking about it that way, my behavior today satisfied all of them.

It's okay not to be bound by 'I must do this!'

Advice like "it's better to do it this way" somehow gets converted into "I should do this" or "I have to do this", and

when I can't do it that way, I end up feeling self-loathing, which is a common experience for me, but

there's no rule that says "I always have to do it this way!"

While we are absorbed in building with blocks, we are silent, but I believe my son's thinking skills are being sharpened.

Communication happens after we've built something

Today, while my son was using blue blocks to make a locomotive, I tried making an elephant.

Even if we are silent while working, once we've both finished our creations, we show them to each other

and enjoyed communicating after we were done building.

Even if we are silent when building, isn't that fine?
Actually, I, a science-loving mom, thought that it's better that way because we can both concentrate.

Please treat me kindly.

🧱 The toy I played with with my son

The toy I played with with my son today is this one☟

It seems to be a block made from rice, born in Japan, and it was a block that felt soft and warm to the touch😊

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